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How do you exactly "move on"?

Is it like forcing yourself to forget? People say to move on from past events or situations but how exactly is that done?
Relationship wise it’s simply accepting that your road and theirs will now diverge, and not trying to change this. Other more traumatic events can’t be moved on from so simply
We can move on when we accept something is over, or that we can’t do anything to change the outcome. When we accept this, we release attachment to the situation.
Convivial · 26-30, F
By not giving them significance they don't deserve, by realising each event is just one of many pot holes in life.
You have the option to either move past the event or stay standing behind it... That choice is yours
PoeticPlay · 51-55, M
The only constant in the universe is change.
Whether we want to or not.
You do not have to force yourself to forget.
Time will move you along ,with everything else, further and further away from the experience. Life will continue to happen and bring about a change.
Doesn't mean that you have forgotten it all, or maybe you have, but a lot less memory occupies that time in your mind.

Just keep movin and getting on with living.

Well that's were I find my progress today anyway.

Best of luck in love and life to you.
Curly00 · 31-35, F
I just try to find something good in the situations. Also I am thankful all the things I have the moment. 🙂Maybe gratitude journal or something like that would see positive things. Maybe not the best thing to think but I just know that somewhere someone has more difficulties and problems to deal with.
It's also good to let your emotions free, but again not to get stuck with these emitions. Good to talk about these feelings to someone who is good listener.
Pretzel · 61-69, M
to me - personal opinion - your milage may vary

you keep putting one foot in front of the other
you keep breathing
you take care of "normal" things that need to be done.

frome time to time you even smile or laugh at loud

sure you have periods of ups and downs and you never fully forget whatever it was the hurt you - but...the pain lessens with time.
Ryannnnnn · 31-35, M
You don't, you intergrate. You have to go through the steps though. For instance, I didn't get over my ex for 6-7 years properly, I had to tell her I still loved her and have her answer before I could finally go through the last stage of grief. I'm past it now and we're close friends still :)
DarkSideoftheMoon · 31-35, F
@Ryannnnnn im glad. Youre an emotionally intelligent person
PoeticPlay · 51-55, M
If there is something to be learned from the experience?
Carry the lesson and live so that moments are created and unity is offered.
Live with no regrets or fear, no expectations.
But with all of the anticipation of acceptance and the humility of survival.

---------- Poetic Play 2022 -------------
SW-User
For me it’s time
People say that shit because your issues make them uncomfortable. You’re allowed to feel what you feel, then comes letting go. You’ll know when you do because you’ll of had enough of yourself feeling it.
Penny · 46-50, F
turn your focus elsewhere. let go of wanting/wishing whatever by accepting you arent going to get it
VampireOfDesire · 26-30, M
Do stuff you enjoy so time goes by faster. As time goes by so does the feels
Tiredish · F
You cannot just "move on" if there was any ounce of caring. It takes time to heal though.
Nanori · F
For me it's like I've had enough, then push myself out of it
GLITTER · 36-40, F
You can’t until your emotional attachment has gone
SW-User
It's not force, it's acceptance
DisturbOne · 41-45, M
SW-User
There are many ways to move on and forcing yourself to at least try and forget is one of them. That's not to say that it's easy or even effective. The most effective way to move on for good is by obtaining closure or resolution. When past events still haunt you they are like a filing cabinet in your brain that is left open. When you find a way to close the cabinet your brain can stop alerting you to this unresolved issue. This may be achieved by yourself but can often require counselling if the issue is deep enough.
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
People just become dead to me so I can move on
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