If someone says that they love you....

If someone says that they love you...doesn't that mean that they love all of you? Someone in particular always say that they love me but seem to criticize me for the things that I do and enjoy :/ so from what it seems like the person loves me for the things that they only accept or find to be right in their eyes.I find this to be extremely toxic because I would be damned if I stop doing what I enjoy to please the next person because they think it is unacceptable. -_- Anyone ever experience this?

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ItsAllAboutLove · F Best Comment

Sounds like you're dealing with a narcissist... get away from him as SOON as possible, because it is indeed VERY TOXIC. To an arcissist "I love you" only means "I love to get laid by you, I'm in the mood tonight". They will only say things that benefits themselves.

OpalFlower · 31-35, F

It isn't a he it is a she lol sadly my mother.It's funny how you said narcissist because that is what I call her and she fits the traits oh so well when I was doing research.

ItsAllAboutLove · F

Oh, ok. Thought you meant a partner. I have a narcissistic father, so I know all about the traits... and about the things Mom told me about him ;)

OpalFlower · 31-35, F

Yikes how were you able to manage the bullshit he put you through?

ItsAllAboutLove · F

I keep my communication with him as limited as possible, and when he's trying to provoke me I say "Well I'm sorry you're feeling that way", and when he needs to have the last word as usual I don't respond, because I know if I do, I get an even worse respond from him. I'm highly sensitive, so avoidance is the best thing. Thank heavens I also have many creative hobbies, so I just do that a lot, give a lot of love to mom, and go away as often as I could.