Kind of angry about a messed up thing

A friend of mine was short on her rent she visited me a month ago after work and she was crying saying she going to be homeless this and that and asked to barrow money. I dont like to lend anything but gave in and loaned her 500 for a month well since then she has been ghosting me and not replying to my texts or even coming around. Its not about the money all the way i know her for 5 years so kind of feel betrayed as well i am out the 500 bucks so its like a double stab in the back. I am angry about it.
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Any input guys?

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froggtongue · M

It could be seen as a person being bad, them just wanting your money and nothing else. But with five years you two have had together, I'm going to suggest something else.
A good person will feel bad about money issues. She was distraught over not being able to pay rent and very worried about being homeless. I'm sure I would be. But if I had to borrow money and couldn't pay it back, I'd feel bad again about not being able to return the money. That might cause her to want to avoid talking to you because she doesn't feel like anything would make the situation better.
I'd say the next time you reach out to her, let her know up front that you're not expecting the money back right away. Maybe eventually, but that you know she's in a tight spot. You just want to first remain friends. Assure her you're not mad and that you really just want her to be well. After that, I'd say it's up to her.