Kind of angry about a messed up thing

A friend of mine was short on her rent she visited me a month ago after work and she was crying saying she going to be homeless this and that and asked to barrow money. I dont like to lend anything but gave in and loaned her 500 for a month well since then she has been ghosting me and not replying to my texts or even coming around. Its not about the money all the way i know her for 5 years so kind of feel betrayed as well i am out the 500 bucks so its like a double stab in the back. I am angry about it.
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Any input guys?

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Spectra · 26-30, F

Any particular input you’re looking for? I mean I just feel bad that happened to you but doesn’t sound like there’s much that can be done unfortunately

On a side note I do think it’s a 100% sign that she’s a bad person. Sometimes you promise to do something or repay something in this case and for whatever reason you can’t. The right thing obviously is to communicate that but for some people it’s hard or they feel ashamed for being dependent on someone else in the first place. So they kind of avoid it until they can pay you back.

In my experience it’s the people who constantly remind you and make promises saying “I’m gonna pay you back this day… this and that…” who are usually full of it.

My practice is I never let people “borrow” or expect favors in return. If I give it, it’s yours, just to avoid those murky waters. If they go out their way to pay me back or return the favor, great. If not oh well.

DanielsASJ · 36-40, M

@Spectra Mature answer