Advice on talking to your partner about your stance on children?

I’m 27 and my Fiance is 35. I was 23 and him 32 when we got to together. At the time, I felt too broken to ever be a mother but now I feel different. I had wanted children when I was a teen but changed my mind in my early 20’s due to my mental health. So when I met my bf I was in the “do not want kids” dating field.

I have been getting better mentally and I feel like now I would truly regret not having kids.

Tbh I feel like if he wanted a woman who knew 100% what she wanted in her life, he should have chosen one close to his own age with a fully developed prefrontal lobe. It’s probably best we cross this bridge before we actually get married but I’m scared of ruining my whole life. He played such a big role in why I even feel safe to have children but I’m afraid he’s too set in his ways to change his mind. 😞

OlderSometimesWiser · F

I can understand your trepidation but you’re wise in realizing that it’s a conversation better had before marriage. All you can do is let him know how you’re feeling and hopefully you’ll both end up on the same page. He might just surprise you, in a good way!

Btw, whatever happens I think it’s wonderful that your mental health has improved to the point where you want to have kids. 🙂