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Advice on talking to your partner about your stance on children?

I’m 27 and my Fiance is 35. I was 23 and him 32 when we got to together. At the time, I felt too broken to ever be a mother but now I feel different. I had wanted children when I was a teen but changed my mind in my early 20’s due to my mental health. So when I met my bf I was in the “do not want kids” dating field.

I have been getting better mentally and I feel like now I would truly regret not having kids.

Tbh I feel like if he wanted a woman who knew 100% what she wanted in her life, he should have chosen one close to his own age with a fully developed prefrontal lobe. It’s probably best we cross this bridge before we actually get married but I’m scared of ruining my whole life. He played such a big role in why I even feel safe to have children but I’m afraid he’s too set in his ways to change his mind. 😞
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Lonelyandyb · 36-40, M
Do what you feel is right.
666Maggotz · F
@Lonelyandyb yeah I don’t know how to approach the subject, hence the question. Either way, I want to have kids with or without him. I just don’t want to lose him.
Lonelyandyb · 36-40, M
@666Maggotz
You could be like
“I want mini yous or mini mes”
666Maggotz · F
@Lonelyandyb are you slow? Like not all there mentally?
Lonelyandyb · 36-40, M
666Maggotz · F
@Lonelyandyb your advice isn’t useful on how to convince a man who doesn’t want children to have them. It won’t be that easy.
Lonelyandyb · 36-40, M
@666Maggotz sorry if my advice doesn’t meet your standards.
The last comment was a lighthearted way to approach the topic
666Maggotz · F
@Lonelyandyb it’s not a lighthearted subject. It’s a serious life altering subject that could ruin my whole life because I don’t want to lose the man I love because we now have different life desires.