I lost my Pumpkin in May. She was a rescue from a rescue sort of situation. She was old- 20 or 21. She passed on her own here. I had a feeling it was time, cuz after I kept telling her I was sorry and didnt know how to help n was scared over n over, she LOOKED at me and put her paw on my bedskirt. ( When I was that sad shed jump in bed.)
It gets better. Thank God she passed on a Friday, cuz had I found her after work any other day... I was a hot mess
@Eeyore122 Thank you for sharing and sorry for your loss. I completely understand, my Klaus and I have a special connection as well so it's so difficult.
The next thing is to gird your loins and realize that your next step will be the most unselfish thing you can ever do for a pet. And that is to let it go when there is little or no quality of life. This is the TRUE cost of owning a pet.
I've cried when two of my pets died. One died unexpectedly and the other one had to be put down.
Allow yourself time to grieve before you get another pet - and don't think of it as replacing your cat - go to the pound or shelter and rescue one - and provide them a good home.
Time will help. I have another one that will be headed over the bridge to meet my other pets - I'll enjoy as much good time as she has left and then I'll do what's best for her - even though I'll probably cry again.
@Pretzel Thank you for sharing. Honestly,it makes it a bit better to know that others have gone through the same and that I am not alone in my pain. It's my first time losing someone so I am really scared.
@American21 @Pretzel I was going to say essentially the same. If the cat is suffering, in pain, has no quality of life, the greatest gift you can give them is euthanasia. And the couple of times I have had to do it, the Vet lets you stay in the room as they sedate the animal and prepare the injection and every time the animal has looked at me with this expression of gratitude. I know part of that is the sedation taking hold, and a lot of it is my projecting what I hope to see. But it helps to be there for the final parting. And rescuing a replacement from a shelter helps as well, but I echo the advice to let some time pass and don't think of it as finding a replacement but a successor with their own personality, their own contribution to make to your lives together.
@Jake966 Thank you for sharing and sorry for your loss. He looks like he was lovely. I hope that we both can see our beautiful furry friends when our time comes.
Abba, As we come together we pray for child and family known to us as American21.
We Bind the Spirit of Heaviness and Loose the garment of praise, oil of joy and comfort. We choose to uproot every root from our lives and plant the seeds of the Word that keeps us free.
So sorry, these kinds of losses are very painful. We just lost our big boy a couple months ago..
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I was in the same boat recently with my dog, and just by luck a family member got another puppy around the same time. The distraction was an absolute blessing. So think about adding another animal to the family. It doesn't replace your best friend but it's a great distraction and they'll soon become a great family member as well.
@MoonlightLullaby Thank you I have to agree. Honestly, I think I love my furry friend more than most people, so it's very difficult. They are with us through thick and thin more than humans.
@American21 I've lost so many, but it never gets any easier, and I'd hope not because each one is a unique soul. I've actually been experiencing anticipatory greif myself as one is in her later stages of life; struggling with some dementia and blindness. But once her feistiness is gone, then mama will do the most compassionate thing possible and help her find that bridge to pass over to the other side. Sigh.❤️🩹
@LordShadowfire Thanks for sharing. I will be there. Even if I am am completely afraid and completely anxious, I will be there holding his paw and telling him how much I love him and thanking him for everything.
