The biggest issue I see is talking about his issues too soon. It means they're on the front raw.
There're ppl with issues who can go around and have interests and stories to talk about .
Judging from myself too and not only from listening to others, whenever I talk about my issues first thing, is not the right time to create any bonds...
Exactly as you say,he earned your compassion. We're not getting involved in love out of compassion, how I see it.