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So im an exchange student and have been in France for 7 months and supposed to stay til June. I got lucky and have an amazing family it's just the school situation. Everyone doesn't talk to me kinda like I'm not there they know I speak French now . I feel so excluded and lonely that it's become normal and when I saw my sisters last week I just broke and told them everything. Now she told my mum and she suggested I go home which is what I want to do but I feel guilty leaving the family when they planned shit for me to do with them. I just regret saying anything but you know when people keep asking what's wrong I always break . Should I leave or stay

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MarkPaul · 26-30, M

Your little story here is filled with holes. You chose an exchange program in a country where you only just "now" speak the native language? 0.0 people in school talk to you, no students, no teachers, yet your exchange family is "amazing," but have done nothing to address your situation? You have felt so excluded for so long it now feels normal to you, yet you broke down when you visited with your sisters... last week, but you've never said anything to your "amazing" exchange family... in 7 months? Presumably, they know nothing of your troubles and they just plan things for you to do with them even though they have 0.0 idea what you are going through and you have no intention of telling them... unless you decide to just go home?

Did you just wake up one morning and declare, "I'm going to be an exchange student" without considering what being an exchange student is like? Are you even in school? Seriously...?

MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M

@MarkPaul Another one is that it's evident that english is not her native language, so she must be an exchange student that knows 3 languages at the age of 19-21. It's possible but unlikely.

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

@MartinTheFirst Yeah, a good point. What I don't get is what is the point of her scenario? Is it the seed of some kind of role-play: "I'm a poor, helpless exchange student...?"

I guess I don't have a problem if people want to be dishonest while being anonymous online, but when they don't put any effort into creating a reasonable "story," it seems they need to be called out for it.

It's like putting a meal on a plate and not putting any thought into the presentation. That's unforgivable.

MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M

@MarkPaul Sometimes people just make stuff up for the heck of it. They don't have any reasons for doing what they do, because they just act on emotions rather than thought. It's creepy how nonsensical that some of the stuff is that people decide to make up from thin air.

MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M

@MarkPaul People like this exist in our society [media=https://youtu.be/T3j0dsddIp8]

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

@MartinTheFirst Yeah, I guess. I have encountered people who are all emotion, all the time. It's overwhelming. They won't even consider reason. If I ever get that way, just quickly slit my throat.

Yeah... it's literally like they are on acid... nothing they say make any sense. I mean, I get emotions, but it seems like they should be able to keep it somewhat in check.