how do i be more likeable?

i come with the full package; i am a very shy and introverted person, but i also have a hard time expressing my thoughts and i end up stuttering. it takes me too long to think of words to fit my sentences, so my friends mostly end up talking over me most of the time. i do everything to be a good friend; listen to their troubles, respect their boundaries.... i just don't get why i tend to end up as the "left out friend", speaking from experience. in most friend group situations, i am the one left out and made fun of. i think it has to do something with myself and my likeability. do i have to be funny? what will it take?

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ButterRobot · 51-55, M

You seem like a sensitive soul and (I’m guessing) wanting to fit in and be like everyone else. You also come across as a nice person.

Unfortunately, feeling a bit isolated is often the penalty you pay for being a nice and sensitive soul… it’s just life. However would you really want to change and be no-so-nice to fit in ? I doubt it.

collin · M

@ButterRobot that's an interesting point of view. you might be right, however, i would like to bond with my friends more easily, or just seem friendlier, because i am VERY if not extremely awkward