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WhateverWorks · 36-40
Yes and no. I used to prattle off advice a lot when I was younger until I learned
1.) most of the time unsolicited advice is received as intrusive
2.) A lot if the time even when people say they want advice they’re not actually ready to take actions, and what they really want is someone to do the work of fixing the problem for them.
3.) People who know you personally (meaning your own human-ness) rarely take your advice seriously even when you know what you’re talking about
That said, when I do give advice I try to check in with them, see what they’ve already tried, and make suggestions that would be subjectively relevant.
1.) most of the time unsolicited advice is received as intrusive
2.) A lot if the time even when people say they want advice they’re not actually ready to take actions, and what they really want is someone to do the work of fixing the problem for them.
3.) People who know you personally (meaning your own human-ness) rarely take your advice seriously even when you know what you’re talking about
That said, when I do give advice I try to check in with them, see what they’ve already tried, and make suggestions that would be subjectively relevant.