If your child wanted to live in a certain place, but you knew it would be bad for them in the long run, and this place made you miserable…

@Torsten Do you stay?

@RebelFox i have and will continue to do so. I hate where I live like nothing else and just want to go back to my place of birth like I always planned but I would be much more miserable without my son.
The things we do for our kids aye

@Torsten Yeah. We give our lives.

If you don’t mind my asking, do you stay for family?

@RebelFox we certainly do.

personally I stay just for my son. My family I dont see that often anyway and could always come back for holidays or whatever and see them.

@Torsten Why does he want to stay?

I don’t know why my son wants to stay. We’re completely alone and miserable here.

@RebelFox I was born in another country, so I am miserable where i am now due to it not feeling like home to me.
My son was born where I am now and his whole life has always been here. Family, school, friends. I dont blame him for not wanting to leave, I would only be doing to him what my parents did to me if I made him leave to go elsewhere.

So your son isn't happy where you guys are now either?

@Torsten I see. That is a lot to walk away from and honestly it’s hard when you don’t have those things.

I think he remembers how it used to be when we had family and friends. When I wasn’t exhausted and busy all the time. I think he wants to stay in that feeling. I don’t blame him, after living in a van, I know he wants stability. But I can’t achieve that here. I’ve tried so hard I’m burnt out. We have no one. There’s nothing for kids to do here. It’s busy and gentrified. I know I could start something better for us elsewhere. I have the means and the will. I’m only holding off for him. But then see how sad he is and I can’t change that here. I know I’m gonna hurt him, but we can’t live here. It’s destroying me. I don’t want to be selfish, but also, if I don’t get my head straight I’m afraid of not being a good mom.

@RebelFox damn sorry to hear that. What if you say went on what you call a holiday to him to a place you feel is much better suited and during that time show him how much better things could be for you both there? If he is not happy where you are now and neither are you, what do you have to lose.
I am sure it will be hard but you sounds like you certainly want the best for you both and You really should think of yourself more also. I know thats hypocritical of me to say after what I wrote about myself but i go for holidays back to my real home whenever I can to keep myself from getting burnt out here and that helps.