Need some advice please

My husband and I are in what looks like a failing marriage. He can’t seem to admit it. Things are rocky atm. Avoiding one another doing things separately no communication. He on one hand has tried to make little efforts here and there. I have made zero. Since I can see it’s falling apart. I don’t want to mislead. He’s lying right next to me he hasn’t said much all day. I don’t have another place to sleep in the apartment we are in. What would you do? I’m craving hugging him but I’m also not wanting to since last night first time he shouted at me really badly and other things have happened where I have zero trust left anymore. Seems like we both don’t see a future forward more towards his side as I’ve constantly put the efforts in and made the relationship work. Sacrificing and compromising .. should I hug him? I thin k I just need a hug I don’t want to make up with him I just need a hug from anyone right now

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Starcrossed · 41-45, F

Do you think you'd both be open to therapy? It sounds like there's a communication breakdown and some unfulfilled needs on both sides.

You seem to not have much drive to initiate change or at least a conversation that would lead you there.

If last night was the first time he yelled at you, I would try to muster some forgiveness and compassion. Everyone has weak moments, this may have been one of his. If he's yelling at you frequently, you are being abused and that would absolutely explain you lack of drive to make change.

First and foremost though, if you're not in an active fight, DEFINITELY ask for that hug and attempt reconnecting.