Why do people purposely get in my face and get angry when I don’t stand up for myself? Do you think I’m weak?
My dad always told me to stand up for myself as a child, but as I got into adulthood, he was very disappointed that have no respect for myself and I let people push me over. One time my older twin cousin was being disrespectful to me and was jerks to me. My dad got into my face and steely said aggressively, “Why do you let people treat you like that? Quit being so weak! STAND UP FOR YOURSELF!”
My older sister said, “You’re a young woman now. STOP LETTING PEOPLE PUSH YOU AROUND!!! You’re not a little girl getting pushed around anymore. You better stand up for yourself or you’re going to end up in an abusive relationship or friendship.”
I cried for my mom but my sister shut me up and said, “You don’t need your mother for everything! The woman wasn’t in your life so what makes her think she’s going to help you? Be a woman and stand up for yourself! You’re acting you’re damn five years old! You’re 19! Start acting like it!” She didn’t have to get upset.
My best friends purposely got into my face to get a reaction from me. My guyfriend said, “We don’t know what else to do! I tried everything to help you, but you keep crying that people keep disrespecting but YOU AREN’T DOING A DAMN THING ABOUT IT AND WE’RE FED UP! You must love being treated that way do you! Do you like when I get into your face? Huh?!” He started getting into my face and my female best friend did too. “Oh it isn’t going to matter. She isn’t going to do anything about it! You’re too nice to have self respect and you’re a coward! A pathetic weak coward that has no back bone!” They kept getting into my face and I screamed “STOP!” And cried. And they said, “Then stand up for yourself!”
My guy best friend said, “You’re pathetic….”
I keep dwelling on what people said to me and it’s upsetting me and I’m angry inside.
My older sister said, “You’re a young woman now. STOP LETTING PEOPLE PUSH YOU AROUND!!! You’re not a little girl getting pushed around anymore. You better stand up for yourself or you’re going to end up in an abusive relationship or friendship.”
I cried for my mom but my sister shut me up and said, “You don’t need your mother for everything! The woman wasn’t in your life so what makes her think she’s going to help you? Be a woman and stand up for yourself! You’re acting you’re damn five years old! You’re 19! Start acting like it!” She didn’t have to get upset.
My best friends purposely got into my face to get a reaction from me. My guyfriend said, “We don’t know what else to do! I tried everything to help you, but you keep crying that people keep disrespecting but YOU AREN’T DOING A DAMN THING ABOUT IT AND WE’RE FED UP! You must love being treated that way do you! Do you like when I get into your face? Huh?!” He started getting into my face and my female best friend did too. “Oh it isn’t going to matter. She isn’t going to do anything about it! You’re too nice to have self respect and you’re a coward! A pathetic weak coward that has no back bone!” They kept getting into my face and I screamed “STOP!” And cried. And they said, “Then stand up for yourself!”
My guy best friend said, “You’re pathetic….”
I keep dwelling on what people said to me and it’s upsetting me and I’m angry inside.
22-25, F