Did my best friends have the righ to break off our friendship because I “sugarcoat” things? They hate when I “butter” up things.
So my friends call me out for “buttering up what I really want to say and tell me to be straightforward. Even my dad gets irritated that I sugarcoat things and he told me to be HONEST and bluntly because there’s times you need to be blunt.
One time my bestie was wearing a dress that didn’t flatter her. I liked the color. She asked me how it looked and be honest. I told her, “Well, I like the color.” She said, “You did not answer my question. How does the dress LOOK?” She wouldn’t let me go until I answered. I said it isn’t bad and it looks nice enough for a party. I think she knew it wasn’t being completely honest. Then later on before she bought it I said it didn’t look flattering on her. She just looked at me with a pissed look. She scolded, “WHY didn’t you just tell me that in the first place?! You should have said that the first time I asked you! But no you had to sugarcoat it. What’s the point of being best friends if you can’t be straightforward? My own best friend can’t even tell me the truth. Hurt me with the truth!”
This was a few months ago. My guy friend got after me for not being honest about his cake. He said, “Instead of buttering up shit, be blunt. I hate to say this but your dad‘s right. You’re not a straightforward person. You sugarcoat a lot of things, well sometimes. We know how you are. We’re not even gonna bother asking you for an honest opinion anymore because you’re just not going to be straightforward.”
They broke up our friendship with me because of that and my annoyance.
One time my bestie was wearing a dress that didn’t flatter her. I liked the color. She asked me how it looked and be honest. I told her, “Well, I like the color.” She said, “You did not answer my question. How does the dress LOOK?” She wouldn’t let me go until I answered. I said it isn’t bad and it looks nice enough for a party. I think she knew it wasn’t being completely honest. Then later on before she bought it I said it didn’t look flattering on her. She just looked at me with a pissed look. She scolded, “WHY didn’t you just tell me that in the first place?! You should have said that the first time I asked you! But no you had to sugarcoat it. What’s the point of being best friends if you can’t be straightforward? My own best friend can’t even tell me the truth. Hurt me with the truth!”
This was a few months ago. My guy friend got after me for not being honest about his cake. He said, “Instead of buttering up shit, be blunt. I hate to say this but your dad‘s right. You’re not a straightforward person. You sugarcoat a lot of things, well sometimes. We know how you are. We’re not even gonna bother asking you for an honest opinion anymore because you’re just not going to be straightforward.”
They broke up our friendship with me because of that and my annoyance.