I need advice it’s urgent! My best friend is getting kicked out and she asked if we would let her live with us. I am not sure…

So my best friend just texted me now saying she’s getting kicked out she asked how much would we charge her rent? She said she WILL pay rent and she is begging me to live with her and said, “You wouldn’t let your best friend live out in the streets would you. This may work out for the best because will finally get to be roommates.” I mean I don’t want her out in the streets. I would have to ask my dad because I still live under his roof and it’s his house. I don’t want her out in the streets. My dad says he doesn’t want anymore people staying at his house. She should have really thought about all this before she moved back. She was living with her family. She should have gotten a job and saved up first. She doesn’t have any money. Poor girl.

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Busybee333 · 31-35, F

Just the fact that you are doubting your friend's credibility shows you the answer.

It is your dad's house - he has the last word and it should be respected - and that is not under your control, hence you cannot be blamed for it.

Help her find a community shelter or a place with cheap rent so that she will not have to be on the streets but will not have to be in your home either. You can help her in many ways even if you cannot shelter her.

The fact that your friend is pulling on your friendship feeling strings as of now foreshadows that she may guilt trip you for any future inconvenience or when you cannot meet her needs.. which is not cool at all.

If you really want to take her in and your dad agrees.. set a moving out date from the start and sign a legal contract with conditions that have to be met and consequences when these needs are not met. Aka if tenant did not find a job within x amount of days after signing the contract, tenant must leave. If tenant did not pay the rent on time, they cannot continue to rent the place.

Maybe decide on taking her in for exactly a time that you and your family agree.. 1,2,3 days..or a week tops? I have heard some people shelter friends for a cheaper price if they do all the housework.. that could be an idea.

Friendship is important but if you think your friend is irresponsable, she may drag you in a downward spiral of her choices.. both of you will suffer from it.

This is all my own viewpoint.. maybe I just don't trust people.. and that is why I think your doubt is reasonable.

Be kind to her but also careful and clear about your boundaries.

ElizabethBabe1994 · 26-30, F

@Busybee333 Thank you. I do Wanna help her but her staying with us wouldn’t be a great idea. Plus she is looking for other places to stay at. She said she may have to move in with her cousin but she isn’t giving up just yet. She is stubborn but very strong willed and doesn’t give up easily.