Is it rude that your friends wants to have a BBQ at your house?

I mean I understand we should hang out more but who said she was the boss?
My friends were discussing about our next hang out and she asked me if maybe my dad can let us have a BBQ or house party but don’t tell him she suggests it or he’ll think I’m a bad influence. She said she need to get me out of my comfort zone and get out more.
I’ll ask but he has to be at the house because sometimes he’ll go to his girlfriend’s house for the weekend. I understand we should get together more but she has no right to suggest to do shit at my house…..err my dads house.

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hartfire · 61-69

I feel sure she knows it's rude.

Being a host or hostess is always a huge effort - especially with all the cleaning up before and after. It's a huge imposition on anyone so why on earth would your Dad want to say yes?

Her reason for asking you to keep her request a secret (and pretend it comes from you) doesn't ring true. Why would she suggest that she'd be seen as a bad influence when surely, at 26-30-years-old, you're fully capable of making your own decisions? She sounds manipulative to me - someone with little or no respect for obvious boundaries.

Why doesn't she volunteer her own place or suggest a public BBQ or picnic spot?

Or if the weather's unkind, why not all meet at a restaurant or cafe and each person pay for themselves?