How can we get out very capable Asperger’s adult daughter to look for a job and get her life started?
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So my our daughter has Asperger’s Syndrome so she is high functioning autistic. She will be 29 this spring. She is very smart, funny, kind and can be naive at times. She isn’t stupid though. Anyways she is very independent and can do a lot of things by herself. She knows how to get to places, school and she makes her own doctors and dentist appointment. We pushed her to do things on her own because we’ve told her that her dad and aren’t going to be around forever. She needs to understand that once’s we’re gone, we’re GONE, so that’s why for years we’ve been pushing her hard to be more independent and do things on her OWN. Also to get out of her comfort zone. According to my husband, she is too comfortable. He had to give her that tough love. She hates it but she is doing it by herself. She graduated from college almost three years ago with an amazing degree. But now she’s doing nothing but sitting around the house doing nothing all day but watch cartoons, up late chatting with her friends and doing other things but she knows from right to wrong. Wake up every day like around 10pm-12pm. I’ll she’ll go out at night with her “friends”. I understand that in 2020 everything was shut down it was very hard to look for a job so we let her slide on that we try to encourage her to at least find work. How’s the worst time for her to start looking for her own place because my husband and I are getting really tired of her throwing temper tantrum‘s and every time we try to mention she has to find a job or think about getting her own place, she throws a HUGE fit and cussed us out. We understands hard for people especially like her to find jobs but she needs to at least try. We love our baby girl, but she needs to go. My husband said that we need to start giving her more tough love and stop giving her free handouts because it’s our fault for letting it happen. He’s right. We have been going on for too far and it’s time that we make a change. She can even work for a home. There are a lot of places that are hiring. What should we do? My husband and I are fed up with her and we have been telling her sternly but she just yelled and screams at us. My husband put his foot down land went OFF on her.
So my our daughter has Asperger’s Syndrome so she is high functioning autistic. She will be 29 this spring. She is very smart, funny, kind and can be naive at times. She isn’t stupid though. Anyways she is very independent and can do a lot of things by herself. She knows how to get to places, school and she makes her own doctors and dentist appointment. We pushed her to do things on her own because we’ve told her that her dad and aren’t going to be around forever. She needs to understand that once’s we’re gone, we’re GONE, so that’s why for years we’ve been pushing her hard to be more independent and do things on her OWN. Also to get out of her comfort zone. According to my husband, she is too comfortable. He had to give her that tough love. She hates it but she is doing it by herself. She graduated from college almost three years ago with an amazing degree. But now she’s doing nothing but sitting around the house doing nothing all day but watch cartoons, up late chatting with her friends and doing other things but she knows from right to wrong. Wake up every day like around 10pm-12pm. I’ll she’ll go out at night with her “friends”. I understand that in 2020 everything was shut down it was very hard to look for a job so we let her slide on that we try to encourage her to at least find work. How’s the worst time for her to start looking for her own place because my husband and I are getting really tired of her throwing temper tantrum‘s and every time we try to mention she has to find a job or think about getting her own place, she throws a HUGE fit and cussed us out. We understands hard for people especially like her to find jobs but she needs to at least try. We love our baby girl, but she needs to go. My husband said that we need to start giving her more tough love and stop giving her free handouts because it’s our fault for letting it happen. He’s right. We have been going on for too far and it’s time that we make a change. She can even work for a home. There are a lot of places that are hiring. What should we do? My husband and I are fed up with her and we have been telling her sternly but she just yelled and screams at us. My husband put his foot down land went OFF on her.
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