Should I help my sibling/family or should I fight for myself first?

Melpomene · 2021-05-31T19:58:37-04:00

Seeking Advice - Should I help my sibling/family or should I fight for myself first? I got a disorganized family... (12 replies).

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I got a disorganized family (I'm kind of the only parent here, not overreacting) and I don't want my sibling to suffer as much but I also need to take some time (a few weeks, even months) to finish something. I'm dwelling what should I do. Putting myself first seems like an obvious choice but at the same time it feels like betraying them and just so wrong, on the other hand, if I help them now, it could postpone something and make a domino effect of postponing other things which I don't want.

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Coralmist · 41-45, F

People keep telling me, you must help YOURSELF first if you want to be any aid to others.🐚🐞🌺

Melpomene · 26-30, F

@Coralmist That's what I thought, but what when you can help yourself but others can't do the same for themselves? Are we morally obligated to help them or do we leave them on their own?

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@Melpomene I think of you can still help a BIT, is god. But first yourself and you'll be even more able to help others in various ways.