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How can I get a lazy, unmotivated friend to look for a job? Blunt answers please.

I’ve had it up my wits with my best friend. She lies about looking for a job when she hasn’t, she’s lazy, sits in the house all day, watches cartoons and preschool shows. She takes advantage of her parents and takes takes takes. Her parents have been pushing her to get a job and the girl is 30 for crying out loud! She graduated from college and got a great degree. There’s a lot of places hiring if she’s not even trying. I even encourage her to look for a job. Her parents ask if I can talk to her and straighten her up because she’ll listen to me and she gives them a hard time and won’t listen to them. They told me she yells and screams at them I would cry. They’ve threaten to kick her out or to get her to find a new place if she doesn’t start looking for a job. She issues her disability (Asperger’s Syndrome) as an excuse and she can do SO MANY THINGS! She’s worked before so she has no excuse! I know I can’t make her do anything but I’m tired of her lying and being lazy.
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Ynotisay · M
You can't do anything about her. People make their own decisions in life. And while being a supportive friend is important, once it becomes personally toxic it's pointless. And the reality is that a 30 year old woman living home is doing so because she's being enabled. And yeah. Asperger's. Blah Blah Blah with that. If he has a degree she has her shit together enough to work. Your call but I might consider looking out for your own ass. Some have no problem in taking advantage of the kindness and help of others. And it's the helpers that get hurt. Screw that. Good luck.
ElizabethBabe1994 · 26-30, F
@Ynotisay Yeah you gotta a point.She needs to star looking out after her own ass. I mean we’re adults. We can say it. Her lazy ass needs to stop making excuses! Blah blah. She hates it when I do that to her when she brings up her aspergers. Well she needs to stop then and I wouldn’t have to mock her! I said if she wants to live her life looking like this fine but I’m going to live my life and I can’t stop living mine just to help her lazy ass and her refusal.