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How can I get a lazy, unmotivated friend to look for a job? Blunt answers please.

I’ve had it up my wits with my best friend. She lies about looking for a job when she hasn’t, she’s lazy, sits in the house all day, watches cartoons and preschool shows. She takes advantage of her parents and takes takes takes. Her parents have been pushing her to get a job and the girl is 30 for crying out loud! She graduated from college and got a great degree. There’s a lot of places hiring if she’s not even trying. I even encourage her to look for a job. Her parents ask if I can talk to her and straighten her up because she’ll listen to me and she gives them a hard time and won’t listen to them. They told me she yells and screams at them I would cry. They’ve threaten to kick her out or to get her to find a new place if she doesn’t start looking for a job. She issues her disability (Asperger’s Syndrome) as an excuse and she can do SO MANY THINGS! She’s worked before so she has no excuse! I know I can’t make her do anything but I’m tired of her lying and being lazy.
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Sometimes you have to just sever the tie. You can’t respect your friend because she refuses to respect herself. Move on. Maybe it will help her to wake up. It probably won’t. She will probably just try twisting it into another excuse for her own failings.
ElizabethBabe1994 · 26-30, F
@stratosranger so the best thing I would do is the ignore her until she gets a job?
@ElizabethBabe1994 It troubles you and to be honest it should. A person like that is a leach. 30 years old? Wow.
ElizabethBabe1994 · 26-30, F
@stratosranger Okay..
Right? 30 years old?! Pathetic!
Her parents are not gonna be around forever and she needs to stop taking them for granted! She has a degree so she needs to start getting her shit together! It’s about to be 31 and she always cries when she is told to look for a job. She had a job before and she held it so there’s no point. I know she got laid off because of Covid but she needs to go back to work!
You’ve done what you can. @ElizabethBabe1994