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I put my boyfriend in jail and now I’m scared

We got into an argument a few hours ago and in the heat of the moment, I called the cops. They arrested him and took him to jail for domestic battery because he choked me. I didn’t want him to go to jail. I am deeply sorry. He’s a good person and this was all a mistake. I’m scared that something might happen to him. We were supposed to be celebrating our birthdays. I came down for his bday Sunday and today is mine and I’m just sitting in a hotel room ready to catch the bus back home in a few hours. Is there anything I can do to get him out of there?
NotErin
22-25, F
23 replies 114 views Aug 20, 2020
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Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
The second you start making excuses for violence from somebody who supposedly loves you is the second you give that person control of your life.

Whose to say the next time it happens you might not survive it.
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Pfuzylogic · M
He earned his stay.
You might feel affection for him but a protective order for yourself would be appropriate.
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DianaGyana · 36-40, F
@Fishing65 preach... it is normal to feel sorry for your abuser if you were brainwashed to believe abuse is normal. But it remains your responsibility to get help when you know your life is in danger
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HootyTheNightOwl
Yeah... "good" people always choke others, right???
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DianaGyana · 36-40, F
@HootyTheNightOwl the narc is always the victim even if he stands with a lifeless body in his hands. Shame. Then he want legal representation too because he is soooo innocent. He must get the highest sentence
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HootyTheNightOwl
@DianaGyana Yes, she "asked him to do it" so it can't be his fault, right???
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johntomSWPhd · 36-40
What was the context of it.? if you think he was a good person, he must have been. This is why I want to know the context of this fight.
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DianaGyana · 36-40, F
@johntomSWPhd so you imply OP was the aggressor, so she made him do it? mmm
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johntomSWPhd · 36-40
@DianaGyana I dont think anything. But, i would like to know the situation to get a full appreciation of what happend. OP has been missing for a few days now.
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Justiceforall · M
Happy birthday 🎂
A good person doesn't choke another person, what if he would have stabbed you, would he still be a good person. It's better to put a stop to it before it did get to that point. The odds are he would have done it again, if not to you someone else
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DianaGyana · 36-40, F
@Justiceforall yeah i don't know what advice she expected to get here, to re-enforce her beliefs that the narc is a good guy or an evil SOB that deserve jail time or even getting beaten and raped in jail by his cell mates
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FreestyleArt · 36-40, M
either fix it or leave him for good. He needs Jesus in his life that's for sure
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DianaGyana · 36-40, F
@FreestyleArt jesus don't go anywhere near psychopaths, they are demonic
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solitaire · 41-45, F
He’s been in jail for a few years now? Why would you want him back as your BF if he choked you?
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DianaGyana · 36-40, F
@solitaire she better get her stockholm syndrome checked
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braveheart21 · 61-69, M
There is NEVER an excuse for a man using actual physical violence on a woman unless in self protection... He tried to choke you... He WILL hurt you again and again... Get out while u can... End of
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DianaGyana · 36-40, F
@braveheart21 OP is brainwashed or getting gaslighted to feel sorry for her abuser
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HannibalMontanimal · 26-30, M
Probably has a bail amount on his head. Call the jail and ask how much the bail is
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DianaGyana · 36-40, F
@HannibalMontanimal why should she post bail for him? He might kill her next time because she was good enough to bail him out pffft
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HannibalMontanimal · 26-30, M
@DianaGyana Oh I'm just answering her question I don't care what she does with her life
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SW-User
Good people don’t choke other people. Moderately bad people also don’t choke other people.
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DianaGyana · 36-40, F
don't be sorry, next time you might be dead. You did the right thing
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