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What does the word "respect" mean?

What does it exactly mean when you say you respect someone? Is it more related to admiration/liking or awe/obedience to authority? Has it to do more with how a person acts or what does he or she accomplish?

Let's say you have two teachers. One is kindhearted, nice and wants to stay on good terms with his or her students but he or she also makes compromises to avoid conflicts. Another is strict, asserting authority, keeps his or her distance, gets his or her job done by making people study harder but in hearts of students evokes rather feelings of awe than trust.

According to you, is the word respect more applicable to the first or the second case?
There are nuances of meaning to the word respect, and for different people it has different meanings.

I think respect is having admiration for someone, whether you like them or not. Respect is when you hold someone in high esteem for whatever reason you deem appropriate. One person might respect another while you might not have any respect for that person.

Given your "either or" example, I would say that there are qualities that would engender respect in both teachers.

Some students need to be pushed while others need to be trusted.

It's also my experience that while I'm engaged with someone in some aspect of life, I may NOT respect them, but later, with distance and perspective on the relationship, I may grow to respect them. Of course, the opposite is might respect someone and, later, with new information, you loose that respect.
[@412486,Oosure] Very well put. 👍️
I see it the same way.
4meAndyou · F
Respect, in my mind, is linked to admiration. If someone has admirable qualities, I tend to think that person is fabulous, and I would listen to them and probably try to emulate them.

I observe carefully. I would not respect the first of your examples, because that teacher compromised to avoid conflicts. I would not respect the second one, either, because tough love has to be balanced with affection and humanity.

The teacher who earned my greatest respect while I was in school seemed professional and a tiny bit intimidating during class because she was so beautifully dressed, but when I was having trouble and asked for help, she stayed after school and went over and over ratios until I finally understood how to do them. She was so kind and patient, and you would not have known that during class. Ratios are one of the few math functions I can still perform today.
[@387713,4meAndyou] You were lucky to have a teacher like that. :)
4meAndyou · F
[@472983,CrazyMusicLover] I can see her perfectly but darned if I can even remember her name. Great lady.
Mugin16 · 41-45, M
For me, you give respect is what you give to somebody for his stance or effort he or she makes. Even if you don't agree with him or her.

In your example, I would certainly have respect for the second person. I might like the first person better but I would respect the second person more.
[@393432,Mugin16] I feel the same but somehow I feel it's not completely right. For me, respect must be earned and you don't earn it by simply being kind, especially not if you make concessions to avoid conflicts. But on the other hand, the strict teacher should always stay civil and just, otherwise my respect would become fake. It would only be respect on the outside and obedience out of fear in the inside. That's not true respect if you think their behaviour is morally wrong.

I always think about the movie Whiplash when thinking about respect in student-teacher relationships and can't decide how to perceive teachers like that. Have you seen it?
Mugin16 · 41-45, M
[@472983,CrazyMusicLover] No, I have not. I don't watch many movies.
Cierzo · M
To both, I think. Respect is someone in the middle between liking and obeying. It means that you do not to agree with someone else, but you understand their reasons and do not try to change their behaviour.
[@16207,Cierzo] That's a very good point of view. Especially with the part not trying to change their behaviour. I wasn't thinking about it that way but it's true.
ScarletMoonEmpire · 36-40, F
[c=#359E00]not throwing insult is the most basic respect[/c]
ScarletMoonEmpire · 36-40, F
[@472983,CrazyMusicLover] [c=#359E00]if they have more power, you can always scream, people would come to help you[/c]
[@659125,Kiriko] People will turn their back on you if the person attacking you has power over them as well. Very few would risk their own life or reputation to save you. 🙁 Sadly.
ScarletMoonEmpire · 36-40, F
[@472983,CrazyMusicLover] [c=#359E00]well in that case, run[/c]
Diamonddog · 26-30, M
There's different levels of respect. There's mutual/basic respect and then theres leadership respect.

The leader doesn't need to be liked and cares about getting the result that those who follow them also want. They show the confidence that they know where they're going. So people are willing to make the necessary sacrifices and efforts to achieve that in the promise that they get the result.
People need to respect me when I call them an idiot
Because they usually are
Reflection2 · 36-40, M
Its deeper than admiring or liking some one. Its when your mind doesn't allow you to think any thing remoutly negative about a person. Where you can trust them blindly. When you speak to thet, you speak with care. If you lump up all the fancy words like love, romance, trust etc etc=all equals to respect.

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