I don’t know how to portray myself to others

I am good at a lot of things ,and preforming is one of them
but after a show ,I hate talking with the fans
I am amped up ..I just fed off of their energy for hours
Now I am scared shitless I am going to say something stupid

I am very confident in my work ,and I love when people tell me they appreciate the the quality and the attention to detail
but again I hate speaking ,I know I am going to say something that sounds arrogant and over confident

I am basically a shy person for that reason ,but I try and push past it and communicate with people ,hoping one day I can overcome it
People never really know how shy I am ,,I can talk to anyone
but they just don't know
I would love to tell you it gets easier ,,but for me it never has

There is a group called "Toast Masters " I hear they can help people like me overcome the fear of public speaking ,,would you believe I was also once a preacher ? it was a struggle to begin ,and I always add to many details when I do speak
But maybe they are something you might look into
It sucks being 60 yrs old and still having that voice in you're head
"go ahead stupid ,make a fool of yourself "

The best way to project confidence is to just be who you are. If you're timid and shy when it comes to communicating, then that's who you are and that's absolutely fine. You'll still appear as a more confident person like that than if you were to fake it and put up front. And it will give you the space for those things to develop naturally into what you want them to be.

You are as you are and some people will love to for all your attributes... others will find fault with something that doesn’t even exist in you.

We aren’t here to be liked by everyone.

I except that.

Narcissistic people will find that difficult to except.

Keep going 🌷

hello twin.
sorry i don't have the answer to these questions. 😣

Hey scarlet ,well this is good practise, do you have friend on here you can chat with a little everyday at least its starting point. wish you luck 🙃

You should just embrace the energy of others. It is hard when people who deal with this sort of anxiety when interacting with others. This can be many various reasons.
But it is all about being comfortable in your own skin and just be free in your expression to others.

I rather not know who I am. I could be anything

Unfortunately I don't have much in the way of advice, but I just want you to know you're not alone; this is super relatable for me too