I have weird fears. ..

One being that if I have a life aside from being a mum I'm not doing my job as a mum? Weird huh? Not sure if this is normal or not.

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Dainbramadge · 56-60, M

I'm kind of like that too. It's like one task at a time and being a parent comes first.

Snowvixen

@Dainbramadge like with dating I'm like having a hard time with it.. I'm a mum first so finding my own self and what I want seems selfish. Maybe I am lookin at this wrong?

Dainbramadge · 56-60, M

@Snowvixen So far I haven't been able to change that train of thought with myself. I think I feel I will not be giving 100% to my kids if I am giving some attention to myself.
I think you have to be able to tell yourself that you deserve it. I'm just no good at doing that at the moment.

Snowvixen

@Dainbramadge I have a hard time with it too, I was taught when you have kids you dont get to have a life? But then I go to therapy and I get you need a identity outside of that sooo...I'm confused.🤣

Dainbramadge · 56-60, M

@Snowvixen I get very similar statements from my counselor as well. It's way better to be well rounded rather than just one thing. You can be multiple things and be well at them.
I think it is something that needs to be practiced like most situations like this. Start out small then advance from there.