Would you make an effort to get with someone out of your league?

An attractive person basically.

(I met a guy for a first date, he's cute and has a nice personality. But we haven't spoken in a day and I'm wondering if it's worth making the effort to try get in touch again... cause he could attract model looking girls and I'm just average)

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th3r0n · 41-45, M

An average looking virgin is a better prize to find and keep than a 10/10 looking slut, you should see the value in your morals and innocence

Virgins are not only more innocent and tend to be cuddly, they won't see intimacy as one who is jaded, they're almost guaranteed to be insanely tight, and I've heard from many people that they're super clingy if you're the one to take their virginity (part of the reason I would love to marry one)

DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F

@th3r0n this is just sickening. You're fetishizing virgins based on almost entirely untrue stereotypes. Yikes.

th3r0n · 41-45, M

@DearAmbellina2113 fetish? No...a fetish is something kinky, sexually based.

That would be someone who likes to go cherry popping, wanting to marry one is entirely different.

Your whole mind is sick.

th3r0n · 41-45, M

@DearAmbellina2113 reading your tag line it was clear why you're really offended, "desensitized"

In other words you're everything I don't want. Of course someone who is blaze about everything wouldn't have the same type of mentality or value of someone who isn't jaded or blaze at all, and you clearly don't value morals either.

FYI I have never been married nor have I had sex with a virgin (nor would I have without marrying even back before I gave up fornicating forever) but I've dated more than one and those are not false stereotypes.

DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F

@th3r0n keep telling yourself that as you peruse my profile desperately looking for something to attack. You're sick.

th3r0n · 41-45, M

@DearAmbellina2113 nasty sluts turn me off and repulse me the same as virgins and other women who have kept more pure than most turn me on and attract me, and I have a distaste for sluts as much as I respect virgins

You offended because you're the nasty sort? Because that's the feeling I get from you

DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F

@th3r0n actually I've had very few sex partners for my age. But what I get from YOU is that you're insecure about your own sexual performance so the idea of a virgin who can't compare you with any other lover excites you.

Women aren't "nasty sluts" just because they aren't virgins. 🙄 And you may not think you're fetishizing virginity but you absolutely are.

th3r0n · 41-45, M

@DearAmbellina2113 I have no such trouble, but I won't be having sex ever again until I'm married, and while I don't have to marry a virgin I would surely prefer a woman who had the same morals currently. I would see a virgin as better than that, as they kept those morals from the beginning. The moral issue is the larger part.

I've had sex with two women in my life despite many opportunities to, and both times I intended it to be forever, but it doesn't work that way, that's why marriage is supposed to come first.

I was a virgin until 21 and meant to be until marriage, but the girl I had been engaged to and I split and I was literally insane for a little while from the pain, she had been a virgin also and both of us followers of Christ

She would have married me if we had sex, she wanted to and I knew she would not have left if I did, broken and distraught I thought to myself that was my mistake and had sex with the next girl I got with thinking that it would make it last, I was too broken to reason.

I always had this value, rather than the perverted old man going around having sex and lusting after virgins that you're trying to make me out to be, my views and what I find honorable have not changed, and I won't be making the same mistakes ever again, it's been 13 years already.