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How easy is it for a father to get custody of child?

My sisters ex is all the sudden trying to get full custody of their son. He left my sister for some random girl he met online and married her.

My sister has depression and she wasn't on medication a few years ago and when he just newly left.

She told him to come and take their son.

But she didn't mean it and she was probably stressed out from all the sudden bring a single mom.


However she is a great mother to their son.

He told the courts she is mentally unstable and irratic.

And thinks he needs to have full custody.

She has had some arugements through texts with him about many different things. But anything she has said wrong to him has nothing to do with the care their son has

If he gets custody of the child it will ruin his life.

He told the court that he sees his son every other weekend. And it's not true he sees his son other weekend. Or every 3 weeks or whenever he decides it's convenient for him.

Sometimes my sister would even tell her ex that it's been a while and he should come see their son.


He is also trying to make things up through texts like my sister broke her phone so she wasn't able to talk with him but he had all communication through my mom.

So he was texting my mom acting like we were lying to him and wanted to keep him from seeing his son
And he randomly wanted to come and see his son. And my sister said that they had plans. And he texted stop trying to keep me from seeing my son.


No one ever said he wasn't allowed to see his son. He sees him whenever he wants.

And he's been screen capturing every argument through text she's ever said.

And when people are mad they say things they don't mean.

He's extremely manipulative and gets way all the time. I'm worried he's going to set things up to make it look like he's being abused.



Also another things when my nephew is in a bad mood he over reacts and says things like everyone hates me and yells at me all the time.

And things like that. So I don't know if he has said things like that to his father about us. Even though it's not true.

He has told us that daddy yells so loud it hurts my ears.

When he is talking about us yelling it's because we are just telling him to get ready and brush his teeth and he doesn't want to. Or to finish eating his food.

So when he doesn't want to do it he says everyone hates him. When it's not true.

What would happen if a child says untrue things in a court? If they end up questioning him?
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smileylovesgaming · 31-35, F
Sounds like a pickle. Usally the court won't take a child from it's mother. But the ex is married and more stable. Court may go that way. I wouldn't argue with the ex at all. That would only make thing's worst.
suzie1960 · 61-69, F
@smileylovesgaming It depends on the jurisdiction but, in general, courts are starting to act in the interests of the child rather than just going along with whatever the mother wants.
Iamnotacat · 26-30, F
He married someone he met online and talk to online for about a year. And knew in real life for 2 weeks.

None none of us know if shes a weirdo or not


My nephew says she's nice but who knows what she's like if she would actually have to be the mother for more then 2 days sometimes every other week.

And I wouldn't say he's more stable he just seems like he is to people who don't know him.

He's pretty and will trick you with a smile
Iamnotacat · 26-30, F
@suzie1960 they never made any type of custody before with the courts. It was just from an agreement to them.

He is lying and saying he comes and sees him every other weekend. When in reality. He sees him every other weekend or. Maybe every 3 or 4 weeks. Or when he wants.

I don't know how anyone can prove that. But I know he isn't telling the truth.
smileylovesgaming · 31-35, F
@Iamnotacat I don't know him at all. I mean by stable is he would have someone there. Unlike his mother. Being single she would need to work more. If she goes to school she won't have someone there. He would. I am sure the court has heard it all. Just goes down to who is better for him
Iamnotacat · 26-30, F
@smileylovesgaming Yeah I know I was just explaining.

I just don't understand why he even wants custody. He's never worried about it before. He can see him whenever he wants but chooses to rarely and whenever it's most convenient for him.

Just what is he trying to prove.
smileylovesgaming · 31-35, F
@Iamnotacat I have a pretty good relationship with my ex husband. When he takes time off from work he takes the boy's. They love to fish and camp. They just hang out with their step mom the other day
suzie1960 · 61-69, F
@Iamnotacat [quote]I don't know how anyone can prove that. But I know he isn't telling the truth.[/quote]
How do you know? You must have some evidence of that in order to know so it's just a matter of putting that evidence before the court.
Iamnotacat · 26-30, F
Because I live with my sister an nephew and know he doesn't come to see him every other weekend. He comes when he chooses.
Iamnotacat · 26-30, F
But it's not there is any proof when he comes.
suzie1960 · 61-69, F
@Iamnotacat You can give evidence to that effect. It's not absolute proof but it's something.