Tell me- should I text him?

Let's start with the backstory. This guy is my father's friend's son. Let's call him R. R and I met about 4 years ago for a camping trip. We hit it off immediately (our fathers were there). Just as friends. We started texting and calling about 6 months later- he lives 4 hours from me, so we could never hang out. This has continued. We usually go on the camping trip 1-3 times a year, but every time it's like we're the best of friends (maybe more). When we first started talking (3 years ago, this episode lasted around 3 months) I was OBSESSED with him- convinced he liked me etc. He had to tell me he didn't like me 3 times, that his mom told him to tell me. However we kept in contact with eachother after.
Fast forward to 2017. I consider us good friends. I find my own boyfriend because I realize R doesn't like me in that way. Well, before R, our dads, and I left to go camping, R met my boyfriend briefly. Then on that camping trip (around 9 months ago) he was almost... cold, mocking. It felt like he didn't want anything to do with me, he kept teasing me (and not about my boyfriend)
About a month after that trip I stopped texting and calling him, due to a new phone (I couldn't text him from it).
Now, about 1 month ago I saw a phone call from him. He didn't leave a voicemail and when I texted his sister to ask why he'd phoned me, she said it "was an accident the phone he had been using is acting up". Now this is weird because he phoned me from their house (landline) phone- those don't just dial the wrong number.
About 2 weeks ago I found out that he had a phone that he could text me from. I wasn't clear on why we stopped talking. Do you think I should just text him (my dad wants to give me his number) and make it clear that if he doesn't want to talk I'll leave him alone, but if he does he can finally text me? I can't call him as he's away right now, from home. What should I do? He's so much better than me.

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rckt148 · 61-69, M

what can it hurt
and like your Dad said ,then you will know
My Granddaughter assumed a boy I have known since he was 4 liked her
Even when he was in Brazil he would climb a mountain to get a signal to call her
we assumed they would end up a couple ,when he was state side he even gave her piano lessons ,
But on a retreat for woman ,his Mom and my Granddaughter talked and his Mom said he was only being so kind to her so he did not break her heart
but he only seen it as a crush ,but she asked my Granddaughter outright if she was waiting on her son ,and she admitted she was (she has never cared about anyone except him ) and I was all for it he is a very very smart and respectful young man ,
but now things have changed and he stopped calling ,he even avoided her at church
I am sure the Mom had something to do with it
He and his sister were home schooled ,,raised to a strict religious life style
they hardly get to leave the family farm except when they go out of country doing missionary work
I really think she was afraid that he and my granddaughter might marry
and then he is to leave his Father and Mother and cleave only unto his wife

I think she was afraid she was about to lose control over her son and she made him break it off
Why would you climb a mountain so you could talk to someone that was only a crush

it sad really they made a handsome couple and I thought they were perfect for one another
but if he is that much of a Momma's boy ,,she did not need that

wolfess · 26-30, F

@rckt148 Funny you say that- my dad always jokes that R's mom told him this or that or to say it etc.