What are ways I can convince my bf that there are better outlets than weed ?

I know a lot of people find it not a big deal but I really hate that he does it. It used to be “oh only sometimes” to “only on weekends” to “oh when I hang with friends so some week days” to everyday even when I’m with him. I can’t take it but I really like him and that’s the only problem I have with him and idk how to fix it.

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nonsensiclesnail · F

You can't fix it without choosing to accept that as part of the package to be with him. You should let him know how you feel about it, if you have not already and then he has to decide what he wants.

Byeluv · 22-25, F

@nonsensiclesnail we’ve already talked about it and we both just get frustrated. I can’t just look at him and say hey I don’t want you smoking anymore because that’s not my say. I wish he’d just open his eyes that idc if it’s “natural” and “isn’t bad harmful” I know it’s bad for him and i don’t like who he is while he’s on it.

SW-User

@Byeluv some good advice is do not waste time on him...

nonsensiclesnail · F

@Byeluv Right, but like everything else in life, we have to make those choices for ourselves. And, since you have talked about it, you both know how the other feels about it, you have to make a choice of being with him or moving on. Or, accepting him for who he is and what he does and being fine with it. I can understand why your not fine with it. That makes for a really boring lifestyle, quite honestly. Maybe find some excitement - cliff diving or rock climbing, encourage him to join you.

Fernie · F

@nonsensiclesnail she can't "fix" it...HE has to stop being a selfish little boy

nonsensiclesnail · F

@Fernie 😏 So, are you going to go over there and make him?
Also I don't see anywhere that she could fix it. But thank you?

Fernie · F

@nonsensiclesnail aren't we agreeing with each other then?

nonsensiclesnail · F

@Fernie I suppose we are.