Why do I still yearn for a past love?

A year and a half ago, I split from a love cause we were both too far apart from one another. We also had our own "challenges" to overcome.

I am getting my life back together, got myself in a good relationship, but lately, thoughts and feelings of this past love has emerged, stronger than ever.

It hurts. Not sure what it is cause I never felt this way before. She was/is something special, however, there are reasons why I should not go back to her as well as reasons why we belong.

Much confuse.

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Mirage · F

Aww, partly it could be nostalgia for what was.
Strong heart feelings usually don't leave or die simply because circumstances won't allow. And perhaps because it was left mid chapter, like an unfinished book. It seems pretty natural to have those feelings. They may wane with time. :-)

LysanderFremont · 36-40, M

Thank you for your response.

But if I may also ask, does that mean I just deal with the ebb and flow of this nostalgia, or is there a way I can come to peace with it?

Mirage · F

You're welcome. 🌞

More than likely just deal, unfortunately. These things usually just take time, ugh. Staying busy helps and stay away from triggers/reminders.

Is there no way to reconnect? Is all lost?

LysanderFremont · 36-40, M

E-mail, phone number (do not know if it is the same number since she got a new phone), and friend with her sister's boyfriend.

She lives in another country so re-connecting is difficult(which may benefit me in a way).

Guess I just had to read it from another that I have to deal with it. No idea if we'll reconnect but I am working on going to school overseas.

I wish I had a better understanding of my intuition though. You know how your heart and mind can interfere with each other from just feeling the right path for you? It is not enough for someone else to tell me "oh that path is correct/wrong" but I want to know and trust in myself the path is right, that I will find better or will reconnect at a better time.

Sorry for the rant. Lack of sleep xP