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Should I get a lawyer involved in this matter?

Hello all,

A few days after my 19th birthday, I found out that I was adopted at five days old by my grandmother. I know I was adopted into the family, but it doesn't change the amount of shock I was in.

Basically, I went through life thinking my birth mother, was my older sister. She had a fling with my biological father when she was my age, and became pregnant as a result.

She gave me away because her boyfriend at the time (now her husband), told her to get rid of me, because I wasn't his biologically. Bear in mind, he had kids with an ex wife when he met my birth mother.

So, she picked him over me and got rid of me. But then again, there were clues, from what I was told, that showed she wanted me. (Got a room decorated for me, bought things ready for my arrival, etc). I was even told that she did want me, until it was time for me to be born.

After finding out last week, I have been trying to get in contact with child services/social services, for my records, and to see if there is any way for me to contact her, or talk to her under a controlled environment to get her side of the story. (Child services were involved as she smoked when she was pregnant with me, and around me as a baby, as well as not feeding me and claiming I wouldn't drink my bottles).

Social services have been of no help. They fob me off and tell me they will get someone to give me a call back. I must have contacted them four times or more, and they always say the same thing. Nobody ever calls me back, I give them my mobile number every-time I call, and I leave my phone on. I explained the situation to them, but still of no help. They transfer me to access to records, only to be told nobody's available. I've sent an email, as they suggested that, and still heard nothing.

I don't want to go to court or anything, but would a lawyer be able to assist in this matter?

T.I.A.
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Ynotisay · M
I'm not sure what a lawyer could do as there doesn't seem to be a legal component to this. They may be able to assist in sharing the laws around contact with a biological parent though. I would think accessing medical records would be covered under some type of law.

But just to toss this out there, her decision had nothing to do with you as a person. It was about a child that she realized she couldn't raise or was in a place where it was in your best interest to have a different situation. You had nothing to do with it.

Good luck.
WishfulCreations · 22-25, F
@Ynotisay I get that, and she did tell a lawyer one time that she gave me away because she knew I would be looked after well, but she went and got pregnant with another child a year later. She currently has four kids, five including me.
Ynotisay · M
@WishfulCreations Well, if that's the case I'm pretty certain that she's felt an enormous amount of pain and guilt over the years. Maybe she's at a place where she can't face herself. You're clearly a sharp person so I'm thinking it might have worked out in your best interest.
Good luck with it.