Any life coaches..single mom here day 5.

I was in a abusive marriage for 7 years with two young boys, 3 and 1. I currently do have a good job but I am going to have to downgrade to a smaller home. On Wednesday my husband was arrested. All of this was put on me. I need someone to hold my hand and walk me thru this. I'm sooo lost and depressed by this all. I am getting my taxes soon so money soon won't be an issue. Has any one been through this? What steps did u take?

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puck61

If you want to make it work with your husband, it looks like he might have to mature a little more. Take an inventory.
You have a good job.
You have a home.
(anything else on the plus side?)

You have dependents and you may have to find cheaper housing
Your husbands in jail for childish behavior
(anything else on the minus side?)

Write down some objectives and priorities and then write down obstacles to achieving those objectives. Luckily you don't have homelessness breathing down your neck, so it's not all that bad.

Mostly you need to have a heart to heart with your husband.

Imani283 · 41-45, F

@puck61 thats some great advice I need to get a good notebook. When I had no one to turn to I always had a journal. Until my hubby took it away. Writing was my let out. Anyone going through similar controlling behavior those aren't good signs

puck61

@Imani283 You mean the juvenile delinquent in jail is the abuser that you speak of? Why is he your husband? I thought you were talking about a previous relationship. Drop the ball and chain and make sure the jail bird pays child support. All you have to do is get on Welfare. They will make sure he is held accountable for his sperm. I gather you're not the type to stay on welfare, but getting on welfare is a sure way of garnishing the juvenile delinquents checks.