I Need Advice

Ok..so I was married for 15yrs and was only intimate with my husband. Never thought about getting tested for stud's. Now I am out in the dating world and decided to get tested so I would know for certain if I had anything and know that I did not pass anythpassion to someone. No I never had any out breaks of any kind while married. So I got tested and everything came back beg except for herpes 1(cold sores),I haven't had a cold sores in over 20yrs. I recently met someone I like and on the first date kissed him.
Should I have told him I tested positive for this before I kissed him?
I never really thought about it since I haven't had one since I was a kid.

I had a 2nd date with the same guy and while talking the subject came up. He was upset with me cause I didn't say anything on the first date.

So please advise...was I wrong for not dating anything?

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MarkPaul · 26-30, M

Yes, yes, yes... I get it... we are talking about the lesser HSV1... I get that most of the world's population already has it... I even get that we just want to feel good about ourselves especially when we are out on a disposable date with a disposable person we probably don't want to see again (just as long as he pays for the dinner and whatever else the evening leads to). I get all that. What if we were just getting over a cold, the flu, or a bad case of gum disease? None of those are life-threatening and fairly common in the general population, so I guess by the "ethics and etiquette consensus" of this group none of those conditions should be revealed either. After all, we don't want to ruin the intrigue of tricking someone on a first date, do we?