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Are you a People pleaser that feels burnout?

Ive been a people pleaser since I was a child. I felt others were more important and that if I just made sure they felt happy, they would like me. But I have read time and time again, we cant make anyone feel a certain way, EVEN when being kind to them. That their emotions are their own, and while some may like us, some will not. I wish I learned that years ago. I gave of myself so much..offering, doing, joking, pleasing. To Anyone, even strangers. Daily. For Yearsss.
Now at 40, I feel burned out. I stay away from most, because its a lot of emotional work sometimes. And that makes me feel isolated. When others my age are having kids, marrying, traveling. I feel if I dont try to please another, that if I start to focus on ME now, that I'll seem/ be selfish. Anyone feel that?
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Lilymoon · F
I used to be a people pleaser....now I'm like nope. I've been burned too many times.
Now they can kiss my arse and I'm good with that.
You need to put yourself first and not worry about others. Especially if they give you nothing back
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@Lilymoon I feel will I be selfish, putting myself first? But if you dont really, it leads to feeling Im hanging by a thread😞
Lilymoon · F
@Coralmist stop thinking that way and do what YOU want to do.
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@Lilymoon Ty my friend. 🌺