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If you met somebody that matched u so well in so many ways, just perfect for you,

but one day she(he) tells you that she(he) does drugs recreationally, and isnt planning on stopping. What would u do?

Starcrossed · 41-45, F

Drugs. I'd do drugs.

*kidding*

Honestly my opinion would really depend what drugs they are doing, how often and where.

Starcrossed · 41-45, F

FWIW my kid's father has a history of recreational use and it only was a problem on rare occasions.

Dan193 · 31-35, M

@Starcrossed ic ic

MrBrownstone · 46-50, M

If marijuana I would not care. Other drugs I would.

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MrBrownstone · 46-50, M

@Dan193 If she was serious about quitting I would work with her. If not I’m out.

Dan193 · 31-35, M

@MrBrownstone yeah they're never serious about it, unfortunately

MrBrownstone · 46-50, M

@Dan193 Then they are a rocket queen. A song by Guns N’ Roses.

PepsiColaP

what is recreationally? For me when people say recreationally ,or at least the way I use drugs recreationally ,would be a twice a year thing for some special occasion where I want to be introspective or have some emotional journey of a short etc. Otherwise it's a habitual thing ,not recreational . If someone was casually using drugs , like a weekly thing , I personally would not stay with them .

Dan193 · 31-35, M

@PepsiColaP wheneveru u go out with friends, or friends come over

BigBulge · 41-45, M

People who use drugs recreationally are drug addicts. Sooner or later, she will drain everything she has, then she will drain everything you have. That's the cold hard truth. Sorry. She is not, as you say, "just perfect for you."

Dan193 · 31-35, M

@BigBulge yeah, that's tough

SethGreene531 · M

A tough relationship to walk away from, but the future is bleak.
You don't want to descend that rabbit hole. One that sees her consumed by addiction, and eventually harder substances. While you stand by helpless to save her.

Dan193 · 31-35, M

@SethGreene531 yeah it's a very tough choice for anyone that's clean

PhilDeep · 51-55, M

Nobody's perfect and we have our boundaries. She needs support to get off them and if she doesn't want that she's preferred her addiction over me and she's welcome to it. Don't need that kind of bullshit drama thanks.

Dan193 · 31-35, M

@PhilDeep yeahh

KiwiBird · 36-40, F

Not enough information to make a reasoned response.
I mean even Alcohol is a recreational drug.

Dan193 · 31-35, M

@KiwiBird a drug you would definitwly never do it yourself

minxy · 46-50, F

I would continue to spend time with him.

Dan193 · 31-35, M

@minxy yeah as long as they dont offer u

minxy · 46-50, F

@Dan193 I'd continue to spend time with him if he did.
Just because he offers, doesn't mean I can't decline.
It would mean he just forgot how I feel about it.

Dan193 · 31-35, M

@minxy makes sense

revenant · F

goddam accept accept accept.

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revenant · F

@Dan193 I do not know what drugs you are talking about but anyway I know I am idealistic I would think we both would beat this stuff together when it comes to it..hopefully.

Dan193 · 31-35, M

@revenant yeah never lose hope

revenant · F

@Dan193 It would depend on the context.

Orca4950 · 70-79, M

Lost a lady friend to this pandemic.

Stay away from them

Dan193 · 31-35, M

@Orca4950 sorry about your loss, and thanks for good advice

BobbyMoeven · 51-55, M

Ask her for her dealers phone number ..

Dan193 · 31-35, M

@BobbyMoeven for what

BobbyMoeven · 51-55, M

@Dan193

Idk... Sometimes I get lonely and need to talk 😉

Dan193 · 31-35, M

@BobbyMoeven hahaha

sarabee1995 · 26-30, F

It's a deal breaker for me. It would jeopardize my job.

Dan193 · 31-35, M

@sarabee1995 u could keep it a secret for them because everything else is so worth it about them

HellsBelle · 31-35, F

stop

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HellsBelle · 31-35, F

@Dan193 get out of the relationship. I was in one like that. just end it. don't waste the time.

HellsBelle · 31-35, F

@Dan193 people get scared but....if your values don't align with theirs (drug free, etc) then you can't force it. They don't see life how you do. end it.

Dan193 · 31-35, M

@HellsBelle I ubderstand

Tracos · 51-55, M

that really depends on the drugs

Dan193 · 31-35, M

@Tracos some that u dont agree with

Spoiledbrat · F

What kind of drugs?

Dan193 · 31-35, M

@Spoiledbrat the ones u dont agree with

Alyosha · 31-35, M

Ask to join her.

Dan193 · 31-35, M

@Alyosha at least you'll be happy together, even if it's for a short while

Jenny1234 · 51-55, F

It’s over

basilfawlty89 · 31-35, M

What kinda drugs are we talking about here?
If it's heroin or something, I'd insist they try to get help, but if they're just smoking a joint, it's no issue. Hell I smoke marijuana every now and then.

Dan193 · 31-35, M

@basilfawlty89 I see

SW-User

I'm surprised if you've already covered enough ground to determine that she is just perfect, that you didn't find about the drug use sooner

The majority of the the drug use lifestyle will be a negative, so get out now, find someone else

Dan193 · 31-35, M

@SW-User they do it only on girls(guys) night out, so u think she(he)'s just drunk coming home. Doesnt go out often, but one day you accidentally stumble on it in their stuff.

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