Have you ever found a type of porn - that you really really like?
Like its exactly how you woudl want sex to go ?
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DunningKruger · 61-69, M
No. Commercial porn is generally fake and dull, as the title says. Genuine amateur porn — a couple people or so videoing themselves having sex — is probably closer, but even that is often people putting on a show. Real, satisfying sex, I imagine, for most people, happens in their heads as much as their genitals. The trick is to communicate with your partner(s) while it's happening in a way that makes it better for everyone involved, I think.
OogieBoogie · F
@DunningKruger. Exactly !
i couldn't agree more .
Its the premise behind the group i just made.
Humans have all this wonderful communcation - and ways [b]to [/b]vcommuncate ...
...but when ut comes to sex - we all shut up.
It doesn't make sensw 🤷
i couldn't agree more .
Its the premise behind the group i just made.
Humans have all this wonderful communcation - and ways [b]to [/b]vcommuncate ...
...but when ut comes to sex - we all shut up.
It doesn't make sensw 🤷
DunningKruger · 61-69, M
@OogieBoogie Well, even people who are comfortable with what they like and they want have trouble communicating with others about sex. I once had a girl basically whisper something at me so faintly I couldn't understand what she was trying to say. I had to ask her several times, and it took two or three tries before she spoke loud enough for me to understand her.
Ferric67 · M
@DunningKruger @OogieBoogie I have a coworker who is a
Very good looking lady
She has had a terrible go with relationships, for a variety of reasons
And none of which is a lack of effort on her part, she's constantly out on the prowl and assertive if she sees an opportunity
Her three biggest problems
Desperation, Clinginess and poor Communication
I've told her a few times that she needs to improve her communication for her own betterment...typically after we've had some sort of workplace tiff.
Very good looking lady
She has had a terrible go with relationships, for a variety of reasons
And none of which is a lack of effort on her part, she's constantly out on the prowl and assertive if she sees an opportunity
Her three biggest problems
Desperation, Clinginess and poor Communication
I've told her a few times that she needs to improve her communication for her own betterment...typically after we've had some sort of workplace tiff.
ImpeccablyImperfect · 51-55, F
@OogieBoogie I’m of the opinion that, [i]if you can’t even [b]talk[/b] about it, you shouldn’t be [b]doing[/b] it! [/i]
OogieBoogie · F
@DunningKruger its such a shame really.
As talking about it before.....ir after, can be intimate and very bonding and sexy
As talking about it before.....ir after, can be intimate and very bonding and sexy
DunningKruger · 61-69, M
@OogieBoogie Can be. Depends on the situation.
OogieBoogie · F
@ImpeccablyImperfect PRECISELY?
I wish i could mark what you just said as best comment ..... it's very true.
Too many lead miserable lives, lose sex altogether - just due to lack of communication.
I wish i could mark what you just said as best comment ..... it's very true.
Too many lead miserable lives, lose sex altogether - just due to lack of communication.
JimboSaturn · 51-55, M
@DunningKruger It's true. The exciting part of sex is the build up. That point where you know you are going to have sex and you are getting the green light.