If you were going to have an affair.. Would you be choosy about who you are going to have an...

tiltawhirl · 36-40, F

@StygianKohlrabi ohh lol. Okay. Yes, I am choosy. I have a plan but spontaneous would have been okay with me in certain situations I’m sure. I’d prefer that person to mean something to me and I’d prefer long term. But if it were more spontaneous then all the answers would probably change a bit.

Peterbyres2025 · 56-60, M

Well, i had one affair in my life and to be honest, it was completly unplanned! It is too long a story for here but i was working on a project away from home down in the South of France in summer time. I met a woman from abothet company, aslo on the project, which lasted nearly two months, and the affair started then. We were both married. It was spontaneous, exciting, wrong (!).... but thats my experi3nce!

TravisTx · M

I’ve had both, an affair with someone I’ve had a connection with and a couple of one-night-stands, over the years.

PerfectionOfTheHeart · 46-50, F

Something like that would have to be spontaneous, mostly because the passion driving it would be an unseen force that came too quickly to think rationally. No depth backing it. No connection outside of physical. Just a fulfillment to a missing void that over time has brought too great of an emotional and mental pain to not entertain the idea of one day filling.

3Dogmatic · 46-50, M

I wouldn’t do it. If I were miserable enough in my relationship, I would break it off. Life is too short to be miserable and have to live a secret life.

Pretzel · 70-79, M

it would be someone that was in the same position as me and would have as much to lose

and somebody that understood why we were doing it - and was on the same page

valobasa4ever · F

Honestly I do not feel anything about girls in my same age group.
I have a thing for matured woman .
Their attitude , voice , taking control their own hands.
Sparks in their eyes. ✨
They knows what actually they want from me. <3 .
I crave for them.
Does not matter whether it is one night stand/ one time thing or not.
Sorry for being so bold.

MrAverage1965 · 61-69, M

It would be spontaneous but not just with anyone someone I know and an attracted to. Hopefully it would mean something and be long term.

Adogslife · 61-69, M

It starts spontaneously. In order for it to be meaningful, it’d have to be long term and the sex great. It’s a pretty large risk, so you’d better be choosy. Someone IS going to get hurt.