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Is this too soon ?

I was wanting to propose to my girlfriend on Christmas Eve we been together for a year I really love and care about her she's pretty much my soulmate. Next month is our one year anniversary I'm worried it might be too soon.
dancingtongue · 80-89, M
I'm not the right guy to ask. Granted we had know each other as friends for 14 years, but only been dating for a month when I said "are we getting married this weekend or next?" She said "I have that big catering job next weekend, and you have that work-related dinner. Let me change." We were married in Reno the next day. We were married 43 years before I lost her to cancer.

Now you have to understand, in addition to having known each other our parents--particularly our fathers--were best friends. And we had discussed if our dating led to anything, neither of us wanted the overblown, full gala event they would make out of it. So we were both already thinking on the elopement vs. destination wedding track (although the latter didn't even exist then).

Point is, only you know. It is all subjective and best guess. Only advice: don't pop the question in a public situation that sort of boxes her into an either/or choice. Do it in private where she can say I need a little more time without feeling she is being pressured.
SlaveEt · 36-40, F
Only time will tell. If you two are a good fit to spend your lives together then a couple years figuring that out up front, before kids and entangled finances make things super complicated, is time well spent.
Nitedoc · 51-55, M
@SlaveEt That was well said!
SlaveEt · 36-40, F
@Nitedoc
Aww shucks! Thank you😊
Nitedoc · 51-55, M
@SlaveEt You're welcome.
hippyjoe1955 · 61-69, M
It is not too soon. My wife and I met in July, were engaged in December and married in February. 7 months between meeting and marriage. 47 years later she is still at my side and we are more in love today that we were when we were wed.
GunFinger · F
You can get angaged and still get to know each other for a couple of more years. Don't rush marriage.
Nitedoc · 51-55, M
@GunFinger Good advice. It took me over a year to realize I'd married a close personal friend of satan.
GunFinger · F
@Nitedoc based from experience. Not that I married young. I should've used my brain more.
Nitedoc · 51-55, M
@GunFinger I was old enough, I was just blinded by her beauty. Everybody said I married way above myself. What sealed the deal for me is I soon found out she was kinkier than me! I'm not kidding!
Jonjdw · 51-55, M
Does it feel right. Do you think she is on the same page as you. A year should be long enough to know each other.
No. When you know you know. It will be better off in the long run if you don't drag it out. Good luck .
Jeephikelove · 51-55, F
Go for it! You can have a long engagement. Good luck!
I think your safe. A year is plenty of time.
greensnacks · 31-35, F
It is. Have you talked to her about it?
Give it another year

 
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