How can one view love so it is not something TOO GOOD?

Or too good to be true also.

I have had fear around love for many years...basically my subconscious equates love with something serious and essentially too good for me. I do not offer a partner a lot as far as fun escapades or adventures. I have PTSD which prevents me..(now anyways)..from many social things. But on the whole, probably because I grew up in severe abuse, I put a LOT of pressure on love..mainly that it feels too special for someone like me. How could one reframe a view on love?💖🩵

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JoyfulSilence · 46-50, M

I can relate a little. No woman has ever fallen for me, so I don't expect it. It may never happen.

I have fallen for many women, though. They usually do not like it. It has made me more cautious over time.

It is less of a stressor these days. I used to get depressed, feel like life was passing me by. Now, all I care about is landing this plane of life, taxiing to a comfy lounge, and resting until the airport closes. If a lady wants to share a coffee with me in the first class lounge, that would be nice. Otherwise, I will log on here. Free WiFi! LOL!

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Primnproper · 56-60, F

I’m the opposite in having a romantic view of love and still believing in the concept so sometimes when I think it’s amazing it’s actually flawed and it takes me too long to see it. But I refuse to give up on love..I just have to trust everything I’ve learned through life.

TheOthetAcc · 36-40, M

It's too good for you not to pursue.

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Coralmist · 41-45, F

@TheOthetAcc You also have anxiety around love... or do not feel deserving?

TheOthetAcc · 36-40, M

@Coralmist I never felt it as a kid from either parent. If the people that brought me into this world couldn't love me then who should? I've given up on it

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@TheOthetAcc Wow I have felt that SO much too :( Like, if my own mom literally wanted me not alive, how could anyone EVER like or love me? But as you just said that, it Hit. A child could never ask for their own caregivers to not love /like them. They are innocent and deserving of LOVE. So that child within you is VERY deserving- he never got to feel it. That child is STILL within. And you are definitely deserving of someone's love :)

mindlessdrifter · M

Being yourself and enjoying the moment. Even if you feel it's too good, that's okay. Your heart has that special place where any feeling will adjust to your scenario. And your feelings will be valid. I have PTSD too and I understand my limits. I guess as you get older you learn more about yourself in matters of the heart. If that helps. You have a lot to offer, so don't sell yourself short.

AccursedAlexander3 · 31-35, M

I think love comes naturally. A moment shared between friends or more. The little things that you share and remember together and experience.

SheCallsMeCrushDaddy · M

You can spend some time with my ex. 😂

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