How can one view love so it is not something TOO GOOD?

Or too good to be true also.

I have had fear around love for many years...basically my subconscious equates love with something serious and essentially too good for me. I do not offer a partner a lot as far as fun escapades or adventures. I have PTSD which prevents me..(now anyways)..from many social things. But on the whole, probably because I grew up in severe abuse, I put a LOT of pressure on love..mainly that it feels too special for someone like me. How could one reframe a view on love?💖🩵

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TakeCare87 · 36-40, M

It's too good for you not to pursue.

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@TakeCare87 Well that is my dilemma. Because I feel it IS too good, for myself. When you cannot offer much in terms of being able to go on many outings, you don't feel you deserve a lot. If I was like a complete package , (or at least offer more than I do) then sure i would feel deserving of love.

TakeCare87 · 36-40, M

@Coralmist Well, you and I are in the same ⛵ my friend 🫂

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@TakeCare87 You also have anxiety around love... or do not feel deserving?

TakeCare87 · 36-40, M

@Coralmist I never felt it as a kid from either parent. If the people that brought me into this world couldn't love me then who should? I've given up on it

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@TakeCare87 Wow I have felt that SO much too :( Like, if my own mom literally wanted me not alive, how could anyone EVER like or love me? But as you just said that, it Hit. A child could never ask for their own caregivers to not love /like them. They are innocent and deserving of LOVE. So that child within you is VERY deserving- he never got to feel it. That child is STILL within. And you are definitely deserving of someone's love :)