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Have you ever shed a tear because you were heartbroken. I'm just curious if guys cry over losing a lover.

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nevergiveup · M Best Comment

I am only human i have feelings and not ashamed to show them

karysma · 31-35, F

@nevergiveup It's good to show feelings. I guess I had an unrealistic view on guys 😅

nevergiveup · M

@karysma A lot of people think i am brave and tough due to all i have been through in my life but there is only so much you can take before you explode

karysma · 31-35, F

@nevergiveup Crying is not a sign of weakness. We express ourselves differently as people

Fluffybull · F

Yes, of course men cry. My hub is more of a crier than I am.

karysma · 31-35, F

@Fluffybull Did you feel weirded out at first 😅

Fluffybull · F

@karysma Behind my empathic front I was thinking "oh get a grip!" 😉

DragonFruit · 61-69, M

Yes, men cry as well.
I've cried over the end of a relationship or because my love was unrequited.
These are human emotions and men are human, not robotic.

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karysma · 31-35, F

@DragonFruit I think it's risky to love harder than the other person 😅

DragonFruit · 61-69, M

@karysma Of course it is....but I'm still going to take the risk.

karysma · 31-35, F

@DragonFruit I don't think I want that. In fact I'm tempted to just stay by myself all my life 😅

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

The more it happened, the less I cried.
Now? I'm just uncomfortably numb.

I remember once though, I shook while hugging a near stranger. She asked why the shaking. I couldn't reply back.

How does one explain multiple rejections, in the moment of being close? All the past disappointments. Knowing that the disappointment of rejection will happen once again.

The shaking was the only the consequence of knowing you are going to be rejected for whatever reason they have.

Yes, that person did reject me after a couple of weeks. Never saw them again.

karysma · 31-35, F

@DeWayfarer Rejection is painful. I have mad respect for those who are able put themselves in vulnerable situations for love cause I struggle with that. At one point I couldn't stand all men let alone talk to any. That's how hurt my feelings were in my last attempt at dating

Montanaman · M

That, and other matters of the heart. Life happens, and tears are meant to provide relief, a coping mechanism. So who ever said, Grown men don't cry? 💔🤗❤️😢😎

https://similarworlds.com/romance/3994755-Grow-Men-Dont-Cry

karysma · 31-35, F

@Montanaman So very true. I've never seen a man cry though so it'll be weird witnessing it 😅

MasterDvdC · 70-79, M

@Montanaman Whoever says "Grown men don't cry" is a moron.

Beatbox34 · 31-35, M

Yes.

I have cried a lot lol. Men have feelings even if they may not be expressed as they're intended to.

karysma · 31-35, F

@Beatbox34 Wow that's sad. Was it that bad 😔

Beatbox34 · 31-35, M

@karysma It really hurt me but it's alright.

DrSunnyTheSkeptic · 26-30, M

Oh we do, but we do it where no one is looking.

karysma · 31-35, F

@DrSunnyTheSkeptic you don't invite your guy friends to comfort you with food like I've seen the girls in the movies do 😆

DrSunnyTheSkeptic · 26-30, M

@karysma Hell no, as a man you cry it out then pretend it never happened.

karysma · 31-35, F

@DrSunnyTheSkeptic Haha as you should 😆

DoubleRings · 51-55, F

My dad cried (sobbed) beside my moms deathbed when he realized the end was near. He was 80. It was only the second time I remember him crying in my whole life.

The first time I saw him I was a child and he found a letter a long deceased sibling wrote to him in childhood.

Men cry.

karysma · 31-35, F

@DoubleRings It's sad to lose a lover over death. I guess I should have specified that I was referring to when you break up with your lover kind of heartbreak

karysma · 31-35, F

@DoubleRings It's sad to lose a lover over death. I guess I should have specified that I was referring to when you break up with your lover kind of heartbreak

ElRengo · 70-79, M

We do.
I did it.
Once.
And still along the years, remembering.

Japrost · 41-45, M

Most women on here are men

karysma · 31-35, F

@Japrost So I've heard 😂

markansas

losing a lover. losing a pet.. anger makes me cry.. you dont want to see that. crying is just emotions being let out. after all we are all just people . some men dont cry because its the image you were taught as growing up.. so ya i cry. mark

karysma · 31-35, F

@markansas It's okay for men to cry. I just never seen one cry in person. Don't know what I'll do if I did 😅

sasanack · 61-69, M

I cry to songs many songs, i cry at movies, i even cry watching Britain s got talent ,losing a lover i cried a river, Ive sobbed like baby,ive wallowed in the loss no comfort could have stopped me. but thats just me ..🤥

karysma · 31-35, F

@sasanack Awww 🤗

bowman81 · M

Sure

BizSuitStacy · M

Not over a break up. But when friends or loved ones have died, yes.

MasterDvdC · 70-79, M

I shed many tears when my wife died

Baremine · 70-79, C

@MasterDvdC I can only imagine what that is like. Been married to mine for almost 54 years and judging from her family history may have around 5 more years. Used to think we had forever but it is hard to think about we are nearing the end. Sorry for your loss.

karysma · 31-35, F

@MasterDvdC I'm sorry for your loss dear

SledgeHammer · 46-50, M

I just dont see how crying is going to help any situation!

C'mon.....

SethGreene531 · M

Sometimes grief unexpressed is even worse.
Either way, heartbreak is like a blade of frigid cold through the heart.

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karysma · 31-35, F

@SethGreene531 So very true. I love being alone very much especially the past 3 years. I've learnt a lot about myself

SethGreene531 · M

@karysma Yes indeed! Solitude can be cathartic, even beautiful. In its quiet is space for much self reflection-- and revelation.

karysma · 31-35, F

@SethGreene531 So very true. Some people see being alone as a problem I don't know why 😀

Degbeme · 70-79, M

Yes I`m a guy and yes I have cried after having my heart broke.

TAReturns · M

This one has
More than once

karysma · 31-35, F

@TAReturns Awww 🤗

dimfok · 22-25, M

More than a few tears actually :P

hippyjoe1955 · 61-69, M

No I have not cried over a lost lover.

JoyfulSilence · 46-50, M

I have cried because I loved somebody who did not feel the same way about me.

I have never had a lover, so technically have never lost one.

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karysma · 31-35, F

@JoyfulSilence It happens all the time to feel strongly for someone and they not return your feelings. How come you never had a girlfriend?

JoyfulSilence · 46-50, M

@karysma

I suppose I am undesirable. Perhaps too ugly, boring, depressing, clingy, I do not know. It is what it is. I have given up.

karysma · 31-35, F

@JoyfulSilence You are none of these things. You need to understand that each of us sets limits for ourselves. Once you do that you won't even dream to go past that limit. It's all in the mind really. Trust me I'd know. For years I lived a defeated life and was looking for a way out. That was until I changed my thinking.

Barny52 · 56-60, M

Well yes we all get upset at times

Torsten · 36-40, M

when I was a kid sure. As a adult, nah

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karysma · 31-35, F

@Torsten I'm sorry you had to go through such treatment. It's why I'm so desperate not to start anything with anybody. It's been years since I've been in a relationship and the thought of getting into one stresses me out 😭

Torsten · 36-40, M

@karysma thanks. Its life though and you just deal with the shit and go on with life i suppose.
Sounds like we have that in common. except for the stress part. Can I ask what about it stresses you out?

karysma · 31-35, F

@Torsten The fact that I'll invest my time pleasing someone only for them to treat me bad stresses me out. I don't have the strength to stay in an unhappy relationship. I'd rather be alone

Steve42 · 56-60, M

Yes and yes.

Justforfun65 · 56-60, M

Yes I have

SW-User

Yes i have.

Adstar · 56-60, M

You still grieve the loss no matter if you cry or not...

And off and on you will remember them sometimes 20 / 30 years later..

karysma · 31-35, F

@Adstar It really depends on the relationship status. Some relationships are empty of love. I've been in many of those. Okay not many I've been in just 2 relationships in my life 😆

Adstar · 56-60, M

@karysma My reply was about losing love.. Actual love.. It is even worse when it is unrequited love..

I have avoided situationships successfully all my life..

karysma · 31-35, F

@Adstar It's good to avoid such situations. I've been trying very hard to avoid but someone has awoken something inside of me that only passion can quench. Doing all I can including prayer to put that feeling to rest cause it's a burden 😭

Baremine · 70-79, C

Yes

RedBaron · M

Men cry for many reasons.

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karysma · 31-35, F

@RedBaron True. Have you cried over a heartbreak?

RedBaron · M

@karysma Of course.

karysma · 31-35, F

@RedBaron Sorry 🤗

SledgeHammer · 46-50, M

Haha...

.

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SledgeHammer · 46-50, M

@karysma there is no blame...
To me its shame.

That's just me

karysma · 31-35, F

@SledgeHammer I can relate 😅

CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

@SledgeHammer Wtf? Why would anyone want to cry if they had any control over it?

PiecingBabyFaceTogether · 31-35, M

Yup. And last night the ending of The Great Gatsby made me cry lol

karysma · 31-35, F

@PiecingBabyFaceTogether I remember watching it can't remember how it ended. I used to smoke pot back then so you understand 😊

SW-User

I'm a manlit

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SW-User

@karysma not really 😂

karysma · 31-35, F

@SW-User haha oh sorry I must have missed the F next to your name. I forget to check sometimes 😅

SW-User

@karysma that's ok haha. I was the one joking about being a manlit 😆

Simplegirlstory · 31-35, F

I wish I could be heartless guy

karysma · 31-35, F

@Simplegirlstory That would make you a robot

LibertineWolf · 51-55, M

Isn’t that normal? Maybe not but it tears me up

DestroyerOfIdeologies · 22-25, M

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basilfawlty89 · 31-35, M

For a month solid, and then even when I thought about it long years later.

karysma · 31-35, F

@basilfawlty89 And I thought this girl was crazy. She'd start her day with a session of tears for a month straight after her heartbreak. I thought she was just a crier 😅

basilfawlty89 · 31-35, M

@karysma the thing is actually I'm not a crier. It's only been with that person, and at loved ones deaths. I rarely cry with movies.

karysma · 31-35, F

@basilfawlty89 I cry when watching movies in fact I cried yesterday 😂. With the passing of a loved one it's understandable. I've never experienced a love that deep it left me in tears when it ended. In fact I don't know the romantic kind of love. All I've experienced was a joke really

DDonde · 31-35, M

Yes

Justenjoyit · 61-69, M

I dont have morals but I do have feelings lol

karysma · 31-35, F

@Justenjoyit I do have morals but I've never cried over a heartbreak

SledgeHammer · 46-50, M

@karysma 👏

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karysma · 31-35, F

@SW-User What do you mean?

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karysma · 31-35, F

@SW-User I guess it depends on the person. My last attempt at dating was a mess I wish I hadn't put myself into. That person was a burden on my shoulders and so is the memory of him. I love being by myself too much. I love not carrying anyone in my heart because I don't have to fear losing them. That doesn't mean I don't wish to experience true love cause I never have.

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karysma · 31-35, F

@SW-User Don't be shy 😀

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karysma · 31-35, F

@RogueLoner I know the feeling 🤗

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