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If you are trying to be in a relationship with someone

they want your company and undivided attention but do not want to get married and have not got a spec of libido and make you feel like anything beyond a kiss and hug is an unwelcome advance then what do you do? It's very frustrating. I've tried talking to her about it but ended up feeling like it was my problem. At some point I'm afraid I'll just say "I've had it" and go into complete isolation for the rest of my life. What's wrong with sharing / showing affection and touching?
AmberDuponte · 26-30, F
Some people are afraid of the unknown and willing to 'put up' with what they have....I think some form of ultimatum for you....

Speak....tell her that you aren't happy.....see how it goes...

Good luck.
christylee · 36-40
@AmberDuponte It would be hard to start from here and get to where he wants but wish him the best
Get rid. That’s a lot of conditions without any benefits. Give them chances to understand what you want and improve, or make the decision yourself.
CassandraSissy · 26-30, TVIP
I'd go along with @AmberDuponte, sweetie....

Speak your mind...speak your heart....Libido isn't everything but some physicality, I think, is very important...

Good luck, sweetie..

😘
AlvinoMartins · 26-30
There's nothing inherently wrong with wanting to get physically close to someone. But, you know, the other person might have different boundaries and all. It takes some good ol' communication to sort that out. And if both of you ain't on the same wavelength, I don't see how the relationship can last, you know what I mean? That's why I dig sugar relationships, man. We sit down like grown-ups and talk about the dos and don'ts, what we want and need, before we even start. It's all about being upfront and keeping it real.
IronHamster · 56-60, M
Ok. If sex is important to you, this is the wrong person for you. Friend-zone her and move on, and, please, never get married. Marriage is no longer about love. You can have a loving relationship more honestly without marriage. Marriage is only about how much the woman takes when she gets bored of you.
Tastyfrzz · 61-69, M
@IronHamster not necessarily sex but affection.
IronHamster · 56-60, M
@Tastyfrzz "...anything beyond a kiss and hug is an unwelcome advance then what do you do? It's very frustrating." Right. It's frustrating. It's NEVER going to get better, and it will destroy the relationship given enough time. Your needs are not being met.

 
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