I belive there are many more unhappily married then happily married couples.
There are many times im not happy for my husband can be difficult. I stay due to financial security. Im in my 60s and have myself set up and dont want to start again.
The important thing is we find happiness within ourselves and enjoyvthe simple things in life....

One can only know from one's own experience. In my case I married in an attempt to cope with a broken heart from another relationship. There are things I like about my wife and am grateful for. Also she knew how I felt about the other girl when she said yes. Things are rarely that clear-cut in life. Over the years we've had our excitements!

I think a lot but I think it is because of the breakdown of the family that has been under attack since the formation of the league of nations (precursor to the United Nations).

The original goal was to destroy the Christian values and the family. If you look back in the 40s 50s and 60s you had family units black white Indian that had a loving family husband and wife. This was also mostly before casual sex. Most of these people had only been with their spouse maybe one other.

How often do people now look at their partner and compare them to a previous partner or wish their current partner had some of the qualities of a previous partner. Back in the past there was no comparison because you hadn't been with that many people. I'm speaking generally not about you or any specific person. I know I've slept with multiple ladies over my lifetime but originally I wanted to marry my first girlfriend. I had never thought about cheating or being with anyone other than her and had I married her that's the way I probably would have lived my life. How often do friends especially friends of women downput their husband by saying oh you could do so much better oh he's just wrong for that you need to leave him. Misery breeds misery.

One thing I've noticed is when a man is out with his buddies and he complains about his wife or girlfriend his buddies put him back in line and remind him of all of the positive things she does for him it is not like that from my experience when women go out and she complains about her man all her friends do is encourage her to leave him. This is an ideology that was instilled into women through the feminist revolution.

It happened to me a long time ago it wasn't her fault that she became quadriplegic and suffering from dementia, but it happened . It's a shame that healthy people can't communicate to spice up their relationship.... But what can i say...

I think relationships go thru phases. And I think it’s easy to slip into routines. Like anything they require work and I think a lot of people learn that the hard way.

Well, one can philosophize about what it means to be only roommates but if it means living separate lives but under the same roof then I’d say most married couples I know are more than that. If it means always acting within bounds of what has become the norm then I think most married couples fall into that routine safe space.

That helps me feel better. I have been in a few relationships that started off well, and were really strong until one day they weren't. I never got to the "Roommate" part. The three relationships I am referring to all were very passionate from beginning to end.

One in particular we were both deeply in love. This story gives me hope that maybe the relationships ended before they became "Roommate" type relationships that we both would've felt trapped in.

Over the years I have met and serviced many, many married men that are in sexless marriages.
I have found these men very nice and generous . I do not charge for my services so I do get a lot of nice gifts.
You wife's if you open your legs and mouth you would find a very loving husband that you turned off.I know I have found that in your husband.

There are women of whom I only hear cute stories on few occasions like someone's birthday, or christmas or valentine's day. On even fewer occasions for example my best friend told me eye to eye in an angered tone that her boyfriend refuses to ever clean the flat, only doing the dishes, and they take turns preparing meals.

Married or not it's the same. I know I stuffed my first relationship by taking it for granted and baulking at the idea of getting married for years. My second ex stuffed the next one but my fault was I overlooked many of the narcissistic princess-mode danger signs she exhibited because I was blind to them trying to make it work before it went into full blown dv and abuse directed at me and our then newborn baby girl. Never been married and don't ever want to be. Marriage is super ultra toxic in.my view. It's never truly mutual and nearly always all about the woman while the man is considered as just a piece of shit meat to be trashed and discarded if he doesn't simp 24/7/365 and dance to the right tune.

Till death do us part is too darned long now. In the old days people probably got married early but the first wife probably died in childbirth. Then the man died at around 40. A marriage probably only lasted 25 years max. My gf of 28 years doesn't live with me, doesn't want to get married, won't sleep with me, and is quite picky about what I cook. Seems like we're just friends but i know she would be devestated if I started seeing someone else but what's a person to do?

Many become tired of each other and unhappy in marriage. It takes a lot of coordination and compromise, but you each need space and room to be yourself too.

It's probably common, especially in relationships where couples marry and stop "dating" each other.

Even marriages need that thrill of making the effort to look good for each other and meet at that perfect date spot every now and then.

Well, we're not roomates but it's my fault! I am a lusty man who spends days thinking of other women. Fooling around with other women (without penetration but bj n 69) would be nice. I have yet to experience those positions. I have joined the likes of AshleyMadison sites but nothing, only cause of the implications: i know I will ruin my life for a few hours of entertainment.

Something happens during a marriage as one or both partners get tired and bored with each other the spice or spark of the relationship grows cold with routine life and sometimes each start to explore alternatives ... Has that happened to you??

Our 20th anniversary is in a few weeks. We've been roommates for a long time.

By the time mine ended, we had been unhappy for a while. I won't do marriage again.

We still love each other but after she went through the menopause she lost all interest in sex. Now we share a bed and thats all

I'll tell you this a thousand times: The person you live with and takes care of you will never be as exciting as the person who flits in and out of your life who is mysterious.

A lot of people take each other and love for granted and grow cold and stale..

I'm in that boat too

I have noticed and ascertained that many people hastily get married nowadays because "the sex is great" without getting to know each other or realizing what all is involved ....
and this is what happens when you get married for sex.

I know way more that seem unhappy than seem happy.

I am one of them. Just room mates.

Alot of.people apparently I'm one also

Too many I fear..

Yeah, mine too

I don’t know any such couple. Nowadays couples dont wait for miracles to happen, they straightaway choose divorce over anything.

I think people were happier in marriages in the old days

Well I would guess pretty much everyone who comes on here !

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It is something which is becoming more and more common, don't know why

im glad im not married

You have a room mate too?

Most, best you can hope to do is ignore each other and hope someday you'll find some level of tolerance.

Too much like70%

Probably more than you think. Seems increasingly more common

Supposedly, gay marriages between men are the least likely to fail.