I was married to three creeps. I have left and divorced the last of them after a lengthy marriage, and I do know that it is tempting to excuse someone you once loved. I used to go back to the ex's abusive childhood, and his horrifying mother, and I would try to build up justifications for his behaviors in my own mind.

But understanding WHY someone does horrible things is not enough. If you have not left him, then you need to start wondering if YOU are behaving in a sane fashion.

Your first paragraph I believe is very common. But, the thing is, sometimes people get attached and develop feelings beyond just the lust. We think it means more or will be long term. But when they are done playing or it gets too serious, they ghost or disappear and that is selfish. They use women to fill that void without any care for her heart.

That's great perspective. Very insightful

Thank you for such a beautifully written and thought-provoking post.

This is a good post.
When we are starving even Brussels sprouts look good.

Thoughtful post, thank you

Well said @Lindie507880 😊

Yes...

hmmm......

Thus the quote by Penelope Douglas: “Because we all eat lies when our hearts are hungry”.

That took a turn I was not expecting 🩵

He watches for vulnerability in females he's a predator