What do I do? Lately I’ve been noticing I’m losing interest and feelings for my husband. We fig...

Spectre128 · 51-55, M

That is sadly a common side-effect any relationship. You normalise each other, take each other for granted and sometimes even get fed up of each other. You have to fight to keep it fresh, both of you do. Talk to him about your feelings, think of ways of spicing things up, go on date nights, find excuses to have fun together, so it's not just, cooking, TV, washing, etc

SW-User

You have grown apart. So let him go so you can both hopefully get those feelings with new people.

Ontheroad · M

Are you in the wrong? No, your feelings are yours and aren't wrong, but it does sound like there are deeper problems going on with the two of you.

The "butterflies" naturally go away and have to be replaced with a deeper connection, a deeper appreciation and love for your partner.

That takes work and commitment and only you can decide if it is worth the work.

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

Even if that “butterfly” feeling never happens with another, it's not likely to happen with him. It's not possible to live in the past. You have already changed and so has he changed.

Consider your options carefully.

Can it be worse? Yes!
Can it be better? Yes!

Yet both can happen no matter what you do.

No one stays the same for a lifetime. And often people change in the same ways together.

Ask yourself, if that last is even possible? Can you change in the same ways together? If not, then it is time to leave.

Life is change. Yet the direction of the change is up to you personally or you as a couple.

HappyCamper74 · M

That is common. You are young. I assume he is too. If you are both already unhappy in your marriage, go ahead and make the split so each of you may find your happiness. Don't wait 5-10 years down the road, living in misery and grasping for something that isn't there anymore.
Everyone deserves to have happiness in their lives. Find your happiness! Good luck

Neoerectus · M

People often think the quick and intense "in-love"
is love. It is not. Love builds on that intro.

If it does not, it becomes hollow. Celebs often have many marriages for this very reason. Love is found in the mundane and every day. Of course, you also need new adventures together and apart.

Anton · 61-69, M

You "apparently" are 22 years old and you are already tired of being married. Please let your husband go and stop holding him hostage just so you can get the bills paid and have a place to stay so you can sit and watch Oprah all day. It's inhuman.

SW-User

I don't think there is anyone who has not felt like this at some stage in a relationship. I think it is completely normal. But don't panic in your young marriage. Things can change. Be realistic, and be patient. Hopefully things will work out well for you both!

Sevendays · M

Not at all. It happens in most relationships. I think feelings go up and down, no pun intended. If both of you are aware of that you can either work on it or decide not to.