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Sexless marriage

Its been 10 years since the last time we've had sex. I've finally grown numb and accepted it as the way it's always going to be.

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Offthetop · 51-55, M

ILIASM (I Live In A Sexless Marriage) was one of the biggest groups on EP. To summarize the collective experience of that group, the withholder is not going to change so the denied person can either live with it, outsource their needs or leave. I tried one and 2 before doing 3.

Browneyesarebest79 · 41-45, F

@Offthetop Yes, I was in that group in EP.

Lovegentleman · 46-50, M

@Offthetop Was in the same group. People's comments made me realize a world that I did not know existed. I thought I was sick even contemplated asking the doc to inject me with anti-testosterone drugs. Because my then wife made me feel I was abnormal. Only to then get out and meet people who rowed the boat at my speed. Wow.

Ryan1417 · 31-35, M

It doesn’t have to be that way. I was in a sexless marriage very unhappy. It just recently ended for other reasons. Instead of being any kind of sad or hurt I’m happy because I was so miserable

Degbeme · 70-79, M

It`s been well over 20+ years for me.

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atlantic59 · 61-69, M

remember when we were young and good looking? Remember how complicated it became?

Degbeme · 70-79, M

@atlantic59 No and No.

atlantic59 · 61-69, M

@Degbeme A retirement home with men's night and sexy servers who walk you back to your room when you've had more than one

Bowenw · 61-69, M

I hope you find ways to fill the void.

Nicenlongnthick · 41-45, M

Awww thats really sad you have your needs to and thats only fair..get there yourself if need be

atlantic59 · 61-69, M

@Nicenlongnthick forget needs. look inside. breathe and let your desire subside

3Dogmatic · 46-50, M

That’s not living.

atlantic59 · 61-69, M

@3Dogmatic it is living without sex is all

atlantic59 · 61-69, M

sex does not define us. If you don't go to our hidden warehouses

Stephie · 22-25, F

Have you given a thought to seek counseling?

Intimacy is an integral part of a healthy marriage and if that important part is missing, then frustration is taking the upper hand. It should not be.

I do commend you on not having taken the path of cheating. It shows strength of character and not everyone does have it. I wish you well

darkknightt · M

That's tough

atlantic59 · 61-69, M

@darkknightt some say that life without sex opens them to spiritual understanding

atlantic59 · 61-69, M

i'm not saying it. I'm a wreck

darkknightt · M

@atlantic59 well everyone has different perspective

DaveE54 · 56-60, MVIP

Sorry to hear that it happens to so very many people

SledgeHammer · 46-50, M

10 years? !

Browneyesarebest79 · 41-45, F

@SledgeHammer Yes, Oct 2014

Justafantasy · M

@Browneyesarebest79 here I thought the fact the wife was barely interested in sex when we would have it every month or two was an issue

JSmith75 · 46-50, M

So sorry

atlantic59 · 61-69, M

@JSmith75 sex is probably overrated anyway, right? Please say yes

wudifu · 46-50, M

Thats sad

atlantic59 · 61-69, M

@wudifu maybe a long lasting marriage is based on mutual exclusivity

JonLosAngeles66 · M

That's awful.

onewithshoes · 22-25, F

My boyfriend and I have talked about my keeping my virginity.
It's a choice some couples do make, but unless it's an agreed choice, it's really unfair.

Convivial · 26-30, F

@onewithshoes i really don't see the point

Nicenlongnthick · 41-45, M

Ohh wow.you deserve to have some kind of sexual pleasure. A way of releasing that tension build up..weather its by you helping your self or someone to help you 😉

Teslin · M

Your choice or your partner?

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Teslin · M

@Browneyesarebest79 So sorry !!

Teslin · M

@Browneyesarebest79 Mine is not 100% sexless. But I have a MUCH higher sex drive than she does.

Cheesecake · 61-69, M

@Teslin apparently if you're having it fewer than ten times a year it's classed as sexless. I'd take that, as a 100% improvement - but nowhere near what would make me happy.