Why doesn’t my boyfriend listen to my advice?

He had a performance review at work and it didn’t go well so I gave him some advice. I figured there was room for it since I’m a manager who leads a team and performs similar reviews…

He hung up on me to call him friend for advice 🤨 later he called me to reiterate what advice his friend gave him as though it was some sort of revelation or newfound advice. I literally gave him that same advice before he called his guy friend. Apparently this friend reads a lot of ‘psychology articles’… like, being a manager who deals with team members in similar situations as yourself doesn’t give me any leverage?

From now on I have nothing to say. I’m just going to sit and look cute and see how long I last. He wants to talk? He can call his homie since he’s emotionally attracted to him. Apparently I’m only here for sex

SW-User

You being his partner makes it kinda hurtful to hear advice cuz you’re his safe space, a man likes to be the problem solver you should have phrased it in a way that he feels like he’s figuring it out himself not you telling him what to do

VomitingWords

@SW-User I figured that might be the case but where I’m stumped is how he’d rather another man solve his problem than try to listen to what I have to say 😭

I’m starting to think he just isn’t interested in me. Despite his being the man in the relationship, I think my word deserves to have some weight

cerealguy · 26-30, M

@VomitingWords it's how guys role by nature. You just gotta be clever in navigating it and you'll have the same effect you wanted