Why doesn’t my boyfriend listen to my advice?

He had a performance review at work and it didn’t go well so I gave him some advice. I figured there was room for it since I’m a manager who leads a team and performs similar reviews…

He hung up on me to call him friend for advice 🤨 later he called me to reiterate what advice his friend gave him as though it was some sort of revelation or newfound advice. I literally gave him that same advice before he called his guy friend. Apparently this friend reads a lot of ‘psychology articles’… like, being a manager who deals with team members in similar situations as yourself doesn’t give me any leverage?

From now on I have nothing to say. I’m just going to sit and look cute and see how long I last. He wants to talk? He can call his homie since he’s emotionally attracted to him. Apparently I’m only here for sex

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SinlessOnslaught · M

Good to see you back around.

Sorry you feel ignored and unappreciated. Can I make a suggestion?

VomitingWords

@SinlessOnslaught I’m all for unsolicited advice

SinlessOnslaught · M

@VomitingWords Try telling him exactly what you just told us.

VomitingWords

@SinlessOnslaught I’ve done this once before. My family does it to me too and it hurts. I often wonder what it might be… what image they must have of me that make me unworthy to give advice or share information. They hear the same thing I’ve shared from someone else and they’ll listen to them.

It’s so odd. Seeing how the closest people to me don’t listen to me, yet my coworkers eagerly take my advice. I don’t get it

SinlessOnslaught · M

@VomitingWords I would ask ThatGirlx about that, she's intuitive af.

VomitingWords

@SinlessOnslaught Honestly it sounds like the same advice I hear from women pushing other women to “be in their feminine”. In other words, let men be men and sit back.

While I agree for the most part, I feel there’s an emotional disconnect here.

SinlessOnslaught · M

@VomitingWords It must hurt to be treated like this.