Why doesn’t my boyfriend listen to my advice?

He had a performance review at work and it didn’t go well so I gave him some advice. I figured there was room for it since I’m a manager who leads a team and performs similar reviews…

He hung up on me to call him friend for advice 🤨 later he called me to reiterate what advice his friend gave him as though it was some sort of revelation or newfound advice. I literally gave him that same advice before he called his guy friend. Apparently this friend reads a lot of ‘psychology articles’… like, being a manager who deals with team members in similar situations as yourself doesn’t give me any leverage?

From now on I have nothing to say. I’m just going to sit and look cute and see how long I last. He wants to talk? He can call his homie since he’s emotionally attracted to him. Apparently I’m only here for sex

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Anton · 61-69, M

Can you elaborate on the last sentence? I mean, we need the full picture to make some sort of pertainable comment...

VomitingWords

@Anton He doesn’t listen to me. In this case, he didn’t accept my advice but accepted the same advice from his male friend. Why do you think this might be? He explained to me that his friend reads a lot of psychology tactics yet I’m a manager myself and for some reason, the men under my lead take my advice and listen to my instructions. I’d like to say that’s a sufficient source to vouch for my knowledge.

As for the last sentence, it hurts my feelings that he doesn’t respect my word but will eagerly accept advice from his friends.

Anton · 61-69, M

@VomitingWords You are a woman in a managing capacity. Very few men will respect you as their boss. To aggravate the issue is that one of your subordinates is your lover, who you obviously care about otherwise you would have dumped his ass. Sometimes, just sometimes, (and this has to be done extremely tactically) you might want to consider making them feel as if they are in control, but in fact you are achieving the goals you have to by manipulation. There are some good tactics you can use without deception if you want to. Browse the internet for advice on being a girl-boss over men