What would you do if a woman makes more money than you in a relationship, for me I don't think it's a bad thing as much as I'd like to be with someone who makes more than I do. I'm fond of spoiling my man as well.🙂
I don’t think my partner would mind. It’s all combined anyway.
I think it would only be an issue if I made enough to buy the things I want, but he didn’t make enough to buy the things he wants/needs, so he’d essentially have to ask for my permission/consent to do his thing. That frustration of course would go vice versa if I didn’t make enough money to do what I wanted/needed. It’s especially an issue when the person who makes less money has wants and needs that interfere with the wants and needs of the person who makes more money.
I make more money than my husband, and we both prefer it that way. 😄 I like feeling accomplished and being able to take some stress off his shoulders, and he likes not having the stress of both of us relying more on his salary.
During my three significative relationships there where periods when my partners made or had more money then me. The first one, on some artistic events and at the final accomplishment of long term professional projects. So while not a permanent income, yes big money when happened. The second one and as my also bussines parter made as much as me. But she also received periodical important payments for selling a bussiness inherited from her father. My third one had a significative income from the practice of her profession. Less than mine but ..... she also took care of the bussiness / financial side of my own professional activity as I´m better in developing it´s "technical" core. So I can say she stongly contibuted to my income.
That said and while I make / made enough for my and my family needs, I never had prejudices about my partners having high and sometimes higher incomes.
@sree251 Not realy. Had a long (long) life and not so good luck till found the love of my life in my mature years. Would have been only one if knew her since young.
It wouldn't necessarily bother me. In fact looking back it would have been nice at times that the pressure to keep earning would have been more evenly spread.
I was fine with it. Had a period of time laid off where it came together well. I feel it's for however two in a relationship together want to make things be healthy and work. Only they know together.
Hope your man appreciates you spoiling him... I've been spoiled and I've also gave.
I don't care who "earns more income" - in my world, most of it would still go into the same pot.
I say "most of it" because life has taught me that it's a good idea to hold some money independently of the other in case of financial abuse or events where a joint account may not be accessible.
@HootyTheNightOwl No choice? You mean no trust, don't you? Mother's always tell their daughters: "You've got to be financially independent. You don't want to be caught in a bind; especially, when you have kids. You can't trust men." Believing that your wife is happy with the same pot is one thing, thinking that her mother is as happy is something else. Contempt of a mother-in-law is a big deal. Woke men are like hyenas.
@sree251 I don't give a flying shit what mothers tell their daughters.
All I know is that a lack of access to the household income for 20+ years leaves the dependant spouse trapped in a situation that they might not want to be in - and, if you need to maintain a relationship by strangling off a spouse's access to money... then it's quite clear that [big]YOU[/big] are the one who has trust issues that you need to receive treatment for.
A relationship isn't about strangling your partner to death - but giving them the resources to break you - and trusting them not to do so.
I have made significantly more in the past than my wife, we put a lot of that towards paying off our house. Now... some months she makes a little more than I do, some months I make a little more than she does.
@Bugbittinbrain oh shit wrong person thought it was the other guy. So being financially independent is important overall, showing that we can be successful is a good thing. The matter of fact is, im not a fast food worker im a maintenance tech on my way to hopefully becoming a jack of all trades if not at least a high voltage technician. And she does her own thing which does make more money right now ill give it that, but that doesn't stop our feelings for each other and she can prove to me that she doesn't have to be over reliant of my finances to support her lifestyle
🤔...........I met a couple through a freind many years ago. She was a Pilot for United Airlines and he was a stay at home dad with three kids.........They had a really really nice house and seemed to be very happy together.........
Income differences should not be a worry as long as there is no much difference in status. In some cases we see the wife escalating too high where the husband appears like a wimp.
I've always made 4-8x+ of my wife's income when she was working. I would not care if she made more. Would actually be nice change of pace to let her carry the load for a few years.